My wife and I as I earlier posted have been sepereated for about 2 months now. She tells me on the phone that she is happier now than she has ever been. But she isn't doing anything different now that what she was doing when we were together. She has moved all of her things out and she is currently staying with her father. She said that she filed for divorce. But everytime we would try to meet up she won't call me or she won't be certain on the time. I stated to her on one occasion after she told me wether I sign the papers or not she was moving on with her life that I would sing them that next day. She told me she would call back but never did. She then calls me back two days later and gives me two differnt times that we can meet up. I didn't call her back...I just sent her a text message that said for her to mail the papers to me. I went to check the mail at our townhome and she had not mailed the. I sent her a message with an address to where she could mail them and asked her to respond so that I know that she got my message she never responded. What do I do? she seems confused and I don't understand what to expect. I love her and want us to work out...but she says that she is moving on and has filed for divorce. But I don't have any proof. It's almost like she is playing games with me. WHAT DO I DO?

It not a game although it may feel that way. She is testing you and your commitment to her. She is telling you that is she is happier now that she is a way for you (which may be true depending on how you treated her in the past). But, if it was true she would not waste her time to tell you that, She is telling you that to see how you will react. Same thing with the divorce. If she truly wants a divorce then you would already have the papers. She is using it to test you. She is unsure where you stand and more so where she stands.

Here's what you do.

1. Listen to her and validate her feelings. You do not give her your opinion or suggestions. Just listen to her and agree.

2. Give her her space. Allow her time to think for herself, do not try to help her to figure things out she needs to do that on her own.

3. Work on your self. GAL, do things for you. Do things to make you happy. In return your happiness will reflect back to her.

4. Do not pressure, pursue, beg, plead or discuss the R with her. Stay focused onyou and your happiness.

5. Have patience. This is the most important one. Be patient with her and the roller coaster ride she is taking you on. And the roller coaster ride you are putting yourself on.

6. Learn all you can on what went wrong in your R and what you need to do to make it right.

Are you certain that she isn't having an affair?