My wife had an affair a couple of months ago with her brother when she was in Mexico. After returning home, she decided to reconcile. I agreed. However, she has not been able to break the emotional relationship. Even though I can see the relationship has really wound down and their contact has diminished greatly, she professed to me that she is still very much in love with him. I've had enough. I've been very patient and loving the past couple of months as I followed plan A.

I'm planning to make a final pitch to break the relationship. But, I'm not particularly confident at this time. The relationship is a great addiction for her. So I'm planning to shift to plan B. Even on this option as this point, I'm skeptical. While she says she wants to reconcile, she can't imagine loving me again. I'd like us to get marriage coaching from the Hadleys via the phone. But, she's very skeptical. She'll do the work, but she doesn't believe it will make a difference.

Any suggestions at this juncture?

DO IT! NOW!

She is in the FOG from teh affair. Anything she says should be veiwed with caution cuz it may just be psychobabble from the fog. Has it been six months yet? I think you may be considering PLan B too soon, what do others think? Plan B is very, very risky.... It might wake her up, but it could work the other way too.

Do not give up! If she agreed to counseling do it, let the Harley's convinve her to not just go through the motions. Hang in there and read everything you can on this site.