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My WW is right here next to me, as I type, ready to send the No Contact letter. ANYONE have the link?
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Dr. Harley�s (From SAA)
(OP), I want you to know that out of respect and love for my wife and children, I have come to realize that I must never see or talk with you again. My relationship with you was a cruel indulgence that (BS) did not deserve. While I cannot completely repay (BS) for the pain I have caused her, I will do my best to become the husband she�s been missing. I care a great deal for my family and I would not want to do anything to risk their happiness. I will not make any further contact with you and I do not want you to make any contact with me. Please respect my desire to end our relationship.
Sincerely,
(WS)
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Mrs. Jayban,
I am very pleased to see you taking steps to make this right.
Nobody ever regrets doing the right thing.
Nobody.
I do invite you to post here as you trangress this difficult period in your life.
Anything anyone said about you previously on this board was all in an effort to support YOUR family and YOUR marriage. It was not personal only a reflection of your Wayward status. YOU have the power to change that perception and restore yourself and your family.
You are both in our prayers.
Mr. Wondering
FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered
"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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S,
You will not regret doing the right thing. It may be difficult for the first few months, but trust me, you can and will build a better marriage than ever. Also, time heals all wounds. Last November, my sister called up my wife and told her off. Just last night, she asked my wife to be one of her bridesmaids. As you rebuild your relationship with Jay, the other ones will follow. You two are in my thoughts and prayers. S, I want you to know that anything I wrote was to help Jay through this terrible ordeal. I have prayed for you and have a ton of respect for what you are doing. Good luck.
Jim BS - 32 (me) FWW - 33 Married 8/31/03 No kids (but 3 cats) D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA) NC agreed to - 11/8/06 NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07 Status - In Recovery Jim's Story
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Mrs. Jayban...
Welcome...I do hope you will stick around here to read and post...Mr. W and I credit these forums with MUCH of our own recovery...This place can be a GODSEND...I've stood in your shoes, and I know just how difficult this all seems and is...Feel free to ask me any questions or look to me for support...Looking forward to getting to know you...
Mrs. W
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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Welcome, Mrs. Jayban!
You are in the right place to find the tools to rebuild your marriage into something wonderful.
I have to tell you that I greatly admire your husband for his persistent fight for your marriage. He loves you and your daughter very much.
"Your actions are so loud that I can't hear a word you're saying!"
BW M 44 yrs to still-foggy but now-faithful WH. What/how I post=my biz. Report any perceived violations to the Mods.
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Welcome Mrs. Jayban. Hope you will read here and even post if you feel like it.
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Letter sent. Thank you all. One small victory tonight, one long road ahead. Picture from Tonight, Please click
BS (Me) - 33
WW - 31
Married 14 years, together 17
Daughter: 16 yrs old
Separated: 12/29/06
D-Day: 2/2/07, EA/PA With Co-Worker
Plan B Started: 3/6/07
D filed by WW: 4/18/07
Olive Branch offered (Plan B resumed after): 8/8/07
R Attempt by WW: 9/1/07
NC Established: 9/4/07
NC Broken: 9/5/07, 9/6/07
Status: Plan B, Pt. II (9/10/07)
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Best news I've heard tonight.
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JB / Mrs JB -- I am happy for you both wishing you a full recovery!
BS(Me) - 47
Ex-W - 44
D final - Dec 08
Kids - 14s,13d,8d
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Nice picture! Both of you need to cling together now.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Jim BS - 32 (me) FWW - 33 Married 8/31/03 No kids (but 3 cats) D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA) NC agreed to - 11/8/06 NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07 Status - In Recovery Jim's Story
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God bless you both!
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No contact is already broken...friend caught him at her house this morning, she called in sick and stayed home.
I've spoken with her since then, and our status is unknown at this moment.
I'll be going dark on these boards again, thanks to all for your help. I'll pop back in when something substantive occurs again.
BS (Me) - 33
WW - 31
Married 14 years, together 17
Daughter: 16 yrs old
Separated: 12/29/06
D-Day: 2/2/07, EA/PA With Co-Worker
Plan B Started: 3/6/07
D filed by WW: 4/18/07
Olive Branch offered (Plan B resumed after): 8/8/07
R Attempt by WW: 9/1/07
NC Established: 9/4/07
NC Broken: 9/5/07, 9/6/07
Status: Plan B, Pt. II (9/10/07)
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I think it is time to pay OM a visit face-to-face (with friends of yours for witnesses of course) instructing him to leave your WW alone.
Jim BS - 32 (me) FWW - 33 Married 8/31/03 No kids (but 3 cats) D-Days - 8/25/06 (EA), 11/3/06 (PA) NC agreed to - 11/8/06 NC broken - 11/28/06, 12/16/06, 1/18/07, 1/26/07, 1/27/07 Status - In Recovery Jim's Story
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I am so sorry, Jay. Praying for you and your wife.
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Up, then down. Hope you didn't have a full stomach. Roller coaster.
I'm sorry Jayban. Been checking for status, update. Was happy for you, but now this.
Know that you have our support. Any chance your DD will want to live with you while WW sorts this out?
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Thanks all for the help, I greatly appreciate it.
Belle,
It's tough to say whether my DD would want to live with me while WW sorts this out. That's been on my mind, and she is a major focus for me. Unfortunately, I don't get to see DD.
BS (Me) - 33
WW - 31
Married 14 years, together 17
Daughter: 16 yrs old
Separated: 12/29/06
D-Day: 2/2/07, EA/PA With Co-Worker
Plan B Started: 3/6/07
D filed by WW: 4/18/07
Olive Branch offered (Plan B resumed after): 8/8/07
R Attempt by WW: 9/1/07
NC Established: 9/4/07
NC Broken: 9/5/07, 9/6/07
Status: Plan B, Pt. II (9/10/07)
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