So, it seems as though the A has become entrenched even more once again. This happened the first time I exposed. It seems as though it only pulls them closer.... "nobody understands"

SIGH -eye roll

WH is in the process of filing for divorce and filling out paperwork for ERD

I still don't know what's up with COC.. guess I'll give them a call Mon

I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I've lost the battle.

Cinc:

We can't control the outcome of what happens in our lives, only our response.

You became a fighter for your marriage, and gave your marriage the only shot it had at survival. Tough to think that things won't turn out the way we want, but regardless of what happens, WE can still be the people that we want to be... even if our situation isn't.

(((((Cinc)))))

So sorry. But remember that resolution of this isn't going to happen over night.

Let's say that you may have lost the 1st battle, but the war may not be over.

He may eventually come to his senses before you have lost all of your love for him. And honestly, if he doesn't, then he sure isn't someone you want to spend your life with anyway.

I don't want to give you false hope, but this ain't over yet.

Who

thanks, both of you

I do spend my days going back and forth "I love him I love him not." I actually just blogged about that yesterday wondering what on earth is wrong with me. I think most people would just get pi$$ed off and leave but here I am still fighting for him!! Sometimes I think I'm crazy! Most of today though I've hated him. We're fighting over custody of DD. He wants joint but I say no. I think I read somewhere on here not to fight with him over it to let the courts decide so I've been trying to do that. He just says things that really get me going. I swear I was seeing red earlier... I think I could have killed him!! I just left the house for a while and then came back in a better mood. After thinking about things for a bit, I realized that once again I am fighting with OW. It seems as though WH is her puppet. I realized this long ago, even confirmed it a week or two ago. I just wish he would come back to his senses. Anyways, so what all do I need to know or where can I find out about getting custody of DD???? Legal just told me to gather evidence against him on the A. Is there anyting more I can do? Please help!!

Hey CH,
Hang in there!

I didn't catch who in CoC you spoke with and how it went... Did you talk w/ Ombudsman and Chaplain as well??

I see you are focused much on OW. I understand that tendency b/c there's some feeling of "competition". It's not. You are not competing w/ HER for your husband's attention, you are competing with his failure to "get" what he's doing. This is the slap in the face the exposure is supposed to accomplish.

Let us know what CoC says today, and WHO there is speaking with you...

Standing by, Capitan

CH, any update???