I’ve been married for 6 months and been with my husband for 4 years. He started having an affair recently with someone from work. He denied it at first saying they were just friends but the truth eventually came out. After being suspicious for some time I checked his email and discovered some emails sent between them. He now wants a divorce and says that he is no longer in love with me. The hurtful part is that he says that the woman he had an affair with has made him realize what he wants in a woman and that there is no way he would want to build things back with me. It hurts that he doesn’t want to try. I know I have done nothing wrong to ask for this but he makes me feel like this is all my fault, especially because I found out by way of snooping. He says that he could never trust me again because of it. I really want a chance for our marriage to work since we've been married for such a short period. Am I just wasting my time? I am devastated right now. I’m originally from out of state and feel like if he doesn’t want to try then I should just go back home.

Welcome to marriagebuilders. He says HE could never trust YOU again because you snooped and caught him breaking his wedding vows. LOL!!! He is the typical wayward spouse, a bit off in his head.

Expose the affair at work, and to his family, hers, and your friends. That will make him extremely angry, but he will get over it.

Then start Plan A, which is showing him what a wonderful wife you could be.

Six months into a marriage is very soon to be cheating, so a lot of people here will advise you to count your blessings and divorce him.

Believer has much more experience than me. But after being here even a short time, take the advice. EXPOSE! And be prepared because YOU will be the "bad guy"! The WS says and does things you never thought possible. Blames you for the sun coming up and going down. They do NOT make sense. It hurts! Be prepared. Read the info here. Take the advice. And please believe in yourself. WS's choices are theirs and theirs alone. It's a rollcoaster ride, HANG ON!

TRY not to love bust. Come here and vent, it helps. Try and keep your head up and your dreams alive.

I hope you are able to get the results you desire.

Definitely expose. This will make the A harder to conceal. Plan A and avoid love busters. Avoiding love busters is easier said than done in the beginning. My FWW would push my buttons, pull me into a fight and keep pushing some more and I ended up flying off the handle once and called her a W***E. If you can pickup some of Dr Harley's books. I've read through His Needs, Her Needs; Fall In Love, Stay In Love; and Surviving an Affair. I had also picked up Dr Phils Relationship Rescue which helped me look at myself & another book called Divorce Busting.

All of these books have great wealth of information and will give you tools to help you along the way. You are among friends here and will receive great support.