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Read andrews post!
Do not be afraid!
Do not fear losing her. Because she is using every tool she can to manipulate you. She will use your fear against you. She will convince you to move out (temporarily!) and you will go along with it thinking that if you appease her you will win her back. BS!!!
Doormats are not sexy. CONFIDENCE is.
Man up!
You're a soldier right? Time to fight for what is right. Stand up for yourself and your son. Do the right things, and don't allow her to sway you from your course.
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Thanks for all your advice. I am going to fight! I picked up the book toady and will start reading it shortly. I tried calling his wife today but he answered instead. I acted like it was a wrong number and hung up. I will try again tomorrow. So how do i tell everyone? Just call them up and say "She had an affair"?
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Call them and tell them your wife and you are having problems because she had an affair. Tell them that you love her and want to keep your family together, and would appreciate any help they could give.
The most important one is the OM's wife. Continue trying to contact her. Let her know about the affair and be prepared to offer any proof you have.
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Exposure is to an affair what chemotherapy is to cancer.
Yes it works.
These "tactics" helped save my marriage.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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Hope you come back and give us an update.
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Sorry I haven't been able to update, it's been very busy around here. So far I am still gatering information. I have tried to contact his wife but she is never there when i call. A friend of mine is trying to find her work number and/or cell. Hopefully the affair will be exposed next week. I will try keep you guys updated, next week is gonna be rough.
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Well exposing the affair has proved to be a difficult task. I have tried contacting the OM's wife for the last few weeks and have not been able to reach her. I just found out that they have already moved to england. My wife is still in contact with the OM and shows no signs of stopping. I'm kinda at a standstill right now. Also I believe that i am losing hope. I don't know if i even want to be with her anymore after all that she has done and continues to do.
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