A little about my story...
It was a year and a week ago, I caught WH with OW at his place of employment. Alot has happened since...OW has been fired from place of employment, but continues to contact WH. I am at the point where I feel like just given up. WH has been acting like he wants more and wants us to be right. But I just don't feel that. I know that this is not the right thing to do, but have recently been looking other places for the emotional feelings I am not wanting from WH.

I need some advice....I need to know what I need to do with myself.

I'm not an expert on recovery, but I do know that your WH needs to end ALL contact with the OW. By allowing her to interact with him, your WH is simply pushing you further away by putting his affair in your face with each contact.

He needs to send her a NC letter and change his cell phone number, e-mail address, or whatever to ensure that he never sees or talks with her again. You will have to a little snooping to ensure that he does this.

If you think he wants to reconcile, then get him to either talk to Steve Harley by phone or have him read the articles on this site about marital recovery.

You've been through a devastating experience and your WH's actions need to communicate that he is willing to take action to repair the damage he's done to your relationship and to protect you from further hurt.

Until he does this, you will probably not want to reconcile with him. But if you feel that you want to work on your marriage, you need to stop allowing other men to meet your emotional needs. Because the temptation to engage in a revenge affair is real and will only cause further damage to your marriage if you do it.

Have you read Surviving an Affair?

Can you expand on this a little? Are you just "looking", just "talking", just "fantasizing", or are you "acting" on these feelings? What's going on?

What's going on?? I mean, OW is still contacting WH...sooo is he telling you that he's done with her and is sneaking or are you allowing this to happen (turning the other cheek)? What does he tell you about contact...does he welcome it and doesnt want it to stop. I guess Im trying to figure out if you are in a sitch where he wants you but finding the addiction hard to get rid of or is he going back and forth...tell you that he wants both and doesnt know who to choose, so you are waiting on him. I and we could better help with more info.