Hello everybody out there just looking for any advice i can get ... Lets see where to begin been married 13 years together allmost 14. I have never had an affair on her. MY wife is 47 and i am 34 big difference there we no kids together but i did raise her 2 . My wife had an affair on me last year in December as far back as i could find out, she did admit some but not all most importantly i found all i needed to know in a series of email back and forth between the 2 and let me tell you it was pretty heart breaking stuff to hear what i thought were our words being used on and with him..... Oh i did leave out im military and was deployed last year when this happened..SO ..... Well i have been home now 4 months and relationship has been getting worse she is very secretive about emailing and phone calls constantly ending both when i enter the room.......Oh and we did move a few states over from where we did live so i dont think they are seeing each other any more.... They may be on the computer though..... Well i dont think we have the same love anymore and i know i dont have the love i did for her.... My wife thinks its all right to fly off the handle constantly and to overreact to everything ......... I feel if your willing to yell that means you dont care about hurting the other person or respect them,, that may jut be me..... Well im being deployed again soon and im really thinking divorce , just not sure when before or after i come back ...... Need someone to help with this .....anything would be nice....

Welcome. Are the kids out of the home?