H started an affair back in June. We separated for two months and during that time I was trying to reconcile and get back with him. He had his own apartment. He started to get upset with this OW because she got a tattoo and he heard that she slept with another man. She has a bad reputation at work and does sleep around but he was too blinded. Well, he called me up and wanted to get back together and said all the right things. The first week he was really doing good and we were trying to work on us. It was difficult but the kids came back to the house and were really happy. Well, last week he seemed more distant. Turns out that he was still seeing her and left me on Friday. So he was with me only for two weeks. He said that he is happy with her and I should just move on. I'm sure she said all the right things and he told me that he is willing to give her the benefit of the doubt that she didn't sleep with anyone. Well, this was definitely the closure I needed.

We have been married 6 years and he has cheated on me five times with different women. This time he is in a long term affair. So, I realize he won't change and I keep thinking that I can help him but only God can right now. I am also 6 months pregnant with our 2nd child. I have three older step children also and they are taking this hard. My H now moved into the OW apartment. He hasn't contacted me at all to for him to see our son. I am glad because I do not want my son around him and this OW and commit adultery in front of my 4 year old son. I asked my lawyer if there was anything I can do to stop that. She said no and he has same rights as well as me until the divorce. Does anyone have any advice regarding what I can do? It is about my children now and I want to protect them. I know eventually he will contact me regarding our son.

My court date for the divorce is in October. I am orginally 2 hours away from where I am currently living. I want to move back to my family. My lawyer said it would be hard for me to move unless he agrees. I live in a small town, my H family is here and I am closer to them than he is and I just feel stuck in his world. He is controlling and will fight me on moving. He has hurt me so bad and I just want to start anew and move on. I feel if I stay here he will manipulate me and tempt me when things don't go his way with this other relationship he started. I don't need that. I loved him and still do alot and having his baby. I just want to get over him and staying here really gets me depressed.

Suzanne, maybe now is the time to strike if you want to move back to your family. Your husband isn't showing much interest in his young son or unborn child. OW will be putting pressure on him to focus on her. If you act now, while he's still in fantasyland, he may agree. Get it in writing.

I am close to my step daughter and she stopped by and saw me last night. She stated that my H said that I want to move and he could stop me if he wanted too but he doesn't want to hurt me more. This gave me some hope that he is okay with letting me go. Like you said, he is in fantasyland and telling people at work and the kids that they better be nice to her. The kids don't respect her cause she is breaking up the family. Anyway, I think he just wants me out of his hair cause I am very close to his family, sister, brother, mother, etc. and he wants to assimilate this OW into his life now and just wants me out. Well, that is fine as long as I have my kids and get out of this town and be closer to my family.

If you move with a case on file there'll be a jurisdictional issue. So there's a few options. You could dismiss the divorce case if he'll agree to it, but he'd have to agree to a motion to dismiss if it's on file. In the middle of a case it would be hard to move but if the case was discontinued you could. Or you could try to file a motion to move the case to a new county, your hometown. You'd have to state in the motion your reasons for wanting to move the case, then he'd have to either agree to it or not respond (or even if he didn't agree it could be worth a try as a judge might say ok, move) . If he doesn't respond likely the court would say you could indeed move the case. I dont' think moving two hours away to your hometown to be with family would be questionable if you are pregnant and the jerk is cheating on you, any judge would agree to that. Your attorney might not want to tell you to file a motion to move the case because in doing so she'll lose her income from this case. You could find an attorney in your family's town and ask for advice too. Tell him/her you want to move, and they'll tell you about this same process I'm describing although it might vary by state, this is how it works in my state. Even two hours away your ex could come visit the kids, that isn't an out of control distance I wouldn't think. Even once your divorce is final you could go to a judge and get "permission" to move to your home town. If you document everything he's doing - cheating, not seeing the child, you name it he's not gonna look like a loving father/wife/anything...