I am 6 wks pregnant to my H. he had an A for 10 mths and is back with me since July. It has been really bad for us, so many issues unresolved, both of us unhappy with each other and hurting. I have been 99% set on leaving him as soon as my new business is earning money (within a few mths). I can't stand the abuse any more, or him trying to make me responsible for his actions. I love him but he is not the same anymore, he is cold and mean to me, plus he loathes himself.
Anyway this week i found out i am pregnant (its definitely his). I have always desperately wanted another one (we have 2 children) and i want this child so much. he wants me to terminate.
Would i be crazy to have the child even though i am fairly sure our marriage is over, and i'll be leaving him before its even born?
i need any advice.
thank you.

PS my auto signature below needs updating. He is not living with OW anymore, he is back with me since July 07. he still works with her and is still in touch with her 'as friends' which i am NOT happy about.

you would be crazy to abort your baby...it is murder. have the child and leave him if he insists on an abortion

See an attorney and file for divorce. You need some legal protection.

I would not have an abortion. You will always regret it, and will grow to disrespect your husband even more. He probably is worried about paying additional child support.

You want your baby..there's your answer!!! You're gonna have a baby!
Congrat's on expecting another little bundle of joy!

Seriously, please don't have an abortion. I knew a woman who had 2 children, got pregnant when they were teen and pre-teen. Her husband didn't want it, so she aborted. Lo and behold, he was in an affair and OW got preggo. He was happy and played daddy to her little one. But not for too long, because he died in early middle-age. (may God rest his soul in peace)

I think the advice on getting an atty is best. Line everything up for your children's sake

(((hugs)))

I'm not going to share my views on abortion with you. You have enough to worry about without a pro-live vs choice debate and you can make your decision without it. You wanted another child. That's all you need to know.

Now, as far as your M is concerned, it is either over or it's not. It sounds like it may be your choice to end it? With or without this new baby, you already have children whose fates you need to be concerned with. If you are already headed down this road, you can do it with a baby. It won't be easy, but it wasn't going to be anyway.

Do you have a good support network?

Please, do not have this be another thing that makes you sad, have a healthy happy baby! You will be so grateful you did. try not to run up the regrets, that is not needed at this time in your life.

There is a reason for everything, even a reason to have this baby in such a time of turmoil.

Congratulations on the new baby! It sounds to me like you already know what you want.

One word of advice: Never tell the child that his/her father wanted you to do this. My mother wanted to have an abortion with me and my dad told me about it. It diminished both of them greatly in my eyes, for two different reasons.