WH is supposed to be here this weekend to see the kids. I let him stay in the marital home and I go to a relatives house. He lives too far away for the kids to stay at his place, especially now they're in school.

Here's what has me worried. He's been pushing staying at a hotel while he's here. He wants to take the kids for the day then drop them off to me at 9:30 and go to his hotel room. He only sees them every other weekend and I feel like he should spend as much time w/ them as he can when he's here. My kids feelings will be so hurt if he does that.

He's not had a problem w/ this arrangement before, we even have this put in our separation agreement. So, I'm worried he plans on bringing his girlfriend with him. Or maybe he's just trying to prevent me from going out this weekend. But I don't think he cares enough about me to spend money on a hotel room just so I can't go out for drinks w/ my SIL.

I've already told him I'll be gone all weekend and if he wants to get a room he'll have to take the kids. We can't afford this, BTW. He's already in major debt, and there's no money to pay for these kinds of things.

What should I do if he brings his girlfriend? I will not let my kids be around her. I'm just worried that he has some ulterior motive. I just can't think of any good reason why he'd spend money on a hotel room and spend even less time w/ his kids. It's also my son's birthday this weekend. I just don't know how I would handle it if he brings her here.