Agreed! Razor, you're being USED by this woman. Get out as fast and as cleanly as you can. She herself has said you deserve better... that's about the only thing she's said that you can really believe.

I would suggest not even communicating directly with her again unless absolutely necessary. Permanent Plan B. Any lawyers in your family or circle of friends?

GTO-

I agree with everyone else. I really think you should seriously consider whether or not this relationship truly has a chance to work out the way you want it.

She clearly isn't "marriage material". Maybe when she grows up, but there's no gaurantee even then.

I'd also suggest that you don't get into the melodramatics...sitting in the drive revv'ing your engine doesn't solve problems. Bagging up her stuff while she's at work and having it delivered to her friend's or her mom's house would probably be more effective.

Don't play her game. She obviously thrives on the thrills and attention. Quietly pack her out and boot her out.

Who owns the house? Or is on the lease?

Get yourself out of this mess, Razor! You lucked out that you didn't marry this woman or it would have been the biggest mistake of your life. Get out while the getting is good. She is not marriage material, she is a USER OF MEN. She does not love you, she wants someone to pay her bills while she cats around.

Don't you want to have a wife who is respectable, loving and decent? Who will treat you well and take care of your children? You will never get that with this woman.

Crap, I had a long post, but it timed out. (#*$&@#.

Brokendreams hit it on the head. I've been where you are. I've lived with a woman with two kids by two different guys. High school dropout, former coke addict, alcoholic, pot smoker, party girl. She also couldn't keep her legs together outside the house.

Fortunately it only took me 6 months to realize I was being used, and I moved out. She almost pulled me back in - we were broke up for 3 months and then started going out again - but 2 months later it was done for good. That was 12 years ago; now I've been married for 10 years to a woman who is my EQUAL and my PARTNER in life.

This woman is screwing another man IN YOUR BED. MAN UP!

Follow the advice here! Get the kids back to their dads or grandparents....box up her stuff and send it somewhere...disconnect yourself financially...change the locks and phone numbers...and cease all contact. Be ready to slap her with a restraining order in case she doesn't go quietly.

It seems to me that the hardest part of getting over someone is making the decision to. Once the decision is made, the rest comes relatively easy.

Tony, the worst mistake you can make is to get into another relationship right away, just to keep yourself from being alone, like a bandaide. And it's paramount to using someone.

And it could end up to be a rebound which will only bring a heck of a lot more pain to either you, or the one you rebound with.

Take some time to heal, to become comfortable with yourself, and by yourself. Hang out with friends and family, and put the women on hold for awhile. You'll be much more likely to make a good choice in a woman, if you can do this. If not, you'll have even chance than the luck of the draw in finding someone who is the right girl for you.