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Re: ||||||||||| PLEASE HELP||||||: Is there any chance in heck she can
OnwardWithFaith #1944903 09/23/07 04:18 PM
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OWF:

It sounds like you are doing all the right things! Keep it up with the mom, church, and everything.

I would talk to the OM! Absolutely! I talked to 5 OMs while my WS was in the throws of her WS mentality, and for some, it became obvious that they were doing something clearly wrong, and for at least one other guy, it just go too weird.

Expose to his pastor too, if you know him. See if he really believes what the Lord says about a man and a woman becoming one.

Lastly, hang in there! Things don't change overnight. Do not get discourage by the things that your WS may say. WSs feel guilty by nature, and in order to ease their conscience, they project their failure on to you. Not the end of the world, just another chance to show her that you are the one that really loves her.
Re: ||||||||||| PLEASE HELP||||||: Is there any chance in heck she can
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"I appreciate your optimism. Gives me hope. Again, she doesn't see it as an affair at all. She says she is 100% done, moving on, can't wait for the divorce to be final, is in love, is going to remarry, and never wants me back. WOW. All THIS in the face of alienating both kids."

Ho-hum, same ole same ole. Keep reading here and you will see her over and over.

We have even had a couple of women that wanted to leave their husbands and children, and fly across the country to meet and live with some guy they met on the internet. They are all completely loco, but most recover and end up back with their family.
Verdict on approaching her pastor??
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Should I approach her pastor at the church the two adulterers are 'worshiping'? I am tempted to call them and very gently share with the pastor what has happened and how this guy will not back off my wife even though she has asked him to when my daughter left. I am afraid the pastor might approach them and then they BOTH will be FURIOUS with me and all ****** will break loose.

Thoughts?
Re: Verdict on approaching her pastor??
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Yes, they both will be furious with you. That is the idea, and who cares? Infidels are always angry when their nasty secret is revealed. But it is the best bet for saving your marriage.
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