I see that there are a lot of new people on here unfortunately.

I will give a brief overview of my situation. My WH has been wayward for a long time now, about 2 years. Everytime I "catch" him and confront him, he denies the girlfriend, but I know for a fact there is and always has been a girlfriend. There was a brief time from about November 06 to May or June 07 when they were "broken up." My WH was better during his time, but still not his normal self. He became very wayward in July of this year so I know the girlfriend has returned.

I have access to his email account and although he only communicates with her through text messages, I have seen an email from someone saying else saying "It was nice meeting you and your girlfriend."

My WH has never indicated he wants to move out...until now. I read an email that was from a realtor saying he found an apartment for my husband. This is where I am looking for some advice and help with a plan.

Should I wait until my WH tells me he is moving out? Should I tell him I know he is looking for apartments?

I have always thought Plan B was my only hope at saving my marriage, but have never had the chance. Quite honestly I'm not sure our marriage can be saved but I do want to give it one last chance. My kids have always been my reason for staying in a marriage like this one, so I am willing to do whatever it takes to save my marriage.

Any advice? Thanks!

Best to move when the WS leasts expects it. Filing for a D, moving him out....all on your schedule NOT his. This pisses a WS off to no end and that is a good thing. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

D/d for me included hearing about a guy leave a message about a room being rented (WS had been applying for rented rooms @ $850.00 a room <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />), then the OW left an ILY message right after.

Kicking him out before his time was helpful for me.

Btw, plan B is NOT about bringing him back. The primary purpose of plan B is to protect your love for your H (not the WS). If he comes back that's a benefit for him but he has to earn his way back to you and the family. No freebies for the WS.

JMHO,
L.

Lost:

I'm here for ya...

Same advice as I have given you in the past...

((((Lost))))

Orchid, thank you! So you think I should tell him to move out BEFORE he tells me he is moving out? Only problem is I have told him at least 3 times before to get out and he just won't. This time may be different though. The only reason I wanted to wait for HIM to tell ME is because I am also going to make him tell our children WHY he is moving out. I can't imagine him doing this, but if he is serious about moving out and it sounds like he is then he will HAVE to tell them.

I understand Plab B is not about bringing him back. It is to preserve the love that I have for him. It is amazing that I have any left at all after all I have been through.

Quite honestly I feel like once he moves out he will also move on. I feel the most sad for my 10 year old. No child should have to grow up in a divorce home without the love and support of two parents. I know it happens all the time, but I never thought it would happen to me. We were the couple/family that was perfect.

Mimi...thank you! Can you either give me the advice again or point me to where I can find my old post where you gave me advice? I'm ready to listen!

Thanks also for the hug. It is much needed and appreciated.

Here's your last thread: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...part=1&vc=1

L.

Lost:

It just might be the apartment for his GF too.

You know, she needs a nice place too.

THROW THE BUM OUT.

Stand up for yourself.

HE DOESN'T CARE.

LG