Although I've put a "smiley" face on my post my marriage is anything but that.
I have been married nearly 20 years, the marriage was really only happy the first 6 years. We have many, many , problems and I really don't know what to do. I once was affectionate and happy in this marriage but after making many attempts to improve and repair my marriage ithout the support of my wife I gave up. Truthfully I am very, very, very resentful to my wife. To the point of not even wanting to be compassionate with her.
My wife is lazy, unaffectionate, unsupportive, nagative, and controlling. Yes she is a christian woman and a very good mother but she has all of these ways. I would love to repair our marriage for both of us but again she's not very supportive. I am very unhappy, but I also know that the Lord hates divorce and so do I. I love my children and feel that it would be best to repair this situation. But if the other person won't listen , won't support working on the marriage, is very controlling.....What do you do?
Anyone got any advise , a website to go to, a book...Anything would help. Have any of you husbands had to deal with deep resentment with your wife? HOw do you overcome it? Thanks junedude16

Hi. Welcome to MB. Please read through as much as the website here as you can. It's very important in marriage to fulfill the EN's (emotional needs) of the other spouse. Sounds like you both are failing to do that. Print out the emotional needs quiz on this site, and if you can get you W to look at it maybe that will be a start. At least you have recognized there is a problem and want to make it better.

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