I spoke with the OW ex-fiancee today. They have broken up. He already had suspicions, and based on suggestions from you guys, I gave him printed copies of a few of the pictures and also emailed him the folder.
He said that my H has been coming over there to "watch movies" for awhile. It's funny, I went into this expecting to tell him what was going on, and instead he told me... a lot.
It hurt to hear it all. But I would rather know. Ignorance is NOT bliss. Unfortunately he confirmed rumors about them planning to move in together. We are both afraid that they have opened new accounts and have been stashing money.
Meanwhile, my children and I have no food in our fridge, rent is due and I have $100.00 to my name(which I will spend on food and gas probably)
I think I will go try to get assistance tomorrow. My H cashed out all his PTO (35 hours) which he said he was going to give to me. I guess I'll find out tomorrow. If it comes through, I have hope. If it doesn't... well I am already heartbroken. I can't say I'm not expecting it.
I love him so much. We used to be so happy until this mess got started. I don't want things to go back the way they were, I want them to get better.
Right now I feel broken. My 5 year old is severely depressed and I ache for her. I want my marriage to work out, and I know I'd be able to hold out. But I don't think my kids can.
Should I move on for them. Forget trying to save my marriage to save them this pain. They will hurt at first, but maybe it will be better in the long run. I don't want them to suffer.
I don't want to give up, he said he wanted to work things out. But he is still so involved in the affair. I don't think exposure to his family will be effective (as some have suggested)because they all live far away.
He won't quit his job.
The OW's ex-fiancee said that the OW seems completely detached and even smug about all of this. He told me a lot of terrible things that she said. I am so scared for my family now, even more than before. My H doesn't realize what he's gotten himself into and even though I'm angry at him, I'm worried about him.
I can see how he has been having a hard time escaping her. I would like some tips on protecting myself and my children from the OW. They are so young and so vulnerable.
I am pretty tired. Thank you for any advice.
