Hello,
I met this man two weeks ago and we have chatted on the phone several times. We seemed to hit it off great. He asked me out and we decided that I'd call him the following day to make plans. I was stuck at an event the following day so it got too late to call him. I felt terrible so I called him back the next day leaving him a voicemail apologizing for not calling back when I should. He didn't call back that night nor the next night. (He was always good about calling me back the same day until now.) I then called him back a 2nd time but still no response.

I'm frustrated because I was getting so excited to have a chance to go on a date with him.

It seems like men are pretty easy to figure out but why no phone call? Sorry...I'm just venting. This dating thing has been pretty hard.

Don't know why no phone call. Any of you guys have a thought about that one?

Is there a way you might bump into after work somewhere to night, and say again what you had said in the VM's?

Just a thought, physical contact sometimes can help!

dawn

Funny you said this but I met someone recently and we have been chatting. She seems to be smart, funny, and very good looking.

However, when I called her yesterday she quickly said hi and asked if she could call me back in 10 minutes. She has yet to call.

This bothered me a lot. Reliability is big with me and if someone doesn't respect or care enough to call me back as they promised, or even later on that night, then it shows me the type of person she is.

We are scheduled to go out Sat night but I am going to wait until she calls. If its Thursday and she still hasn't called I am going to make other plans. I hate playing these kind of games but it is a respect and reliability issue with me. She has to know that blowing me off will not cut it.

As for your situation. He might be feeling the same way, but to a greater extreme. I would have called you back. After all you did call and apologize. That's all I would expect in my book. His book might be a tougher nut to crack however. Or maybe he has something going on too and lost track of time.

Send him a text asking if everything's ok. If he doesn't respond, then move on.

ehhh...try having a relationship on pause.....it's frustrating as ******.....but if someone is worth it I will brave through it. Army Life and studying arabic and trying to deal with past hurts...he's going through alot...but his best friend is a minister and helping him through it and I am supporting him as much as I can from afar to give him space. He made the decision to work on himself...because he realized with me he wants a serious relationship and a chance at a future to get married and have kids. But he wants to work on some of the small things that have affected him from his past that he hasn't healed from. He was burned pretty bad. But the end result is he wants to be a better man not only for himself but for me too. So I am waiting and working on some of my own issues....

What frustrates me about dating again is that I'm finding a lot of inconsistent men. Men that say one thing and do another. I'm trying not to keep my hopes up when meeting someone but it's hard when I crave attention. Being betrayed by my WH was hard enough but diving back into the dating pool isn't much easier. What I'm trying to deal with is the rejection that accompanies dating. Wouldn't it be nice if people were just honest about themselves? Don't tell me that you're going to call and take me out on a date and then not call at all. It's all about respect. Is that too much to be asking for?

How do I date without getting my feelings hurt?

i hope it works out for you surviving. in my case that did not.

mlhb

ready2 wait. . .

you poor thing. . . you don't like uncertainty and risk. . . well, the future is always uncertain, and new people are always uncertain, . . and what do you want to live in a glass shell for?

manage the process, not the outcome. . .

you dont' know the outcome, but you do know the process. . . perfect the process, and the outcome will follow

wiftty

that is my problem as well. i do not like uncertainty.

mlhb

Ready,

You can't date without rejection, it is almost impossible. We are different things to different people. Some guys want the girl next door, some guys want a biker chick, some want a rocker chick, some want a Christian, etc. So if someone rejects you, it is not becuase you are not a good person, it is because they are looking for something different (not necessarily better).

Keep in mind there are men out there looking for someone exactly like YOU! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You know I am actually calm and have a lot of faith in him....he has never broken a promise and hasn't given me a reason to distrust him...PLus his best friend is a minister-a man of god and guiding him through his self healing....I dunno but I have the gut feeling it will be okay.

I understand you there girly...I have been on the dating scene awhile now before I settled on one and I found the same thing...and it is frustrating i agree...but look at it this way....it's not rejection of you....it's you weeding out the bad from the good.....you gotta kiss a lota frogs until you find a prince <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />....thats how I have seen it. People are just very cautious and unsure of what they want now adays.