You know how old shoes are comfy and well worn, you like them cause they are all broke in and don't pinch your toes.

But then they have a whole in the sole and you just have to get rid of them.

Well that is kind of the way I am feeling about "BG" Bowling Guy today, I am wondering if the only reason that I wanted something more with him as he was already broke in and comfy, we've known each other a long time. But it just ain't going anywhere, there is a hole in the sole and I need to get rid of him and move on.

I need to go shopping for some new shoes, any suggestions of a good store or two to shop in?

Dawn <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


I had this whole thing written out this morning and somehow I lost it before I posted it, which makes me sad <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> [color:"red"] [/color]

Maybe it's not the old shoes that need to go. Maybe the old shoes need to walk to new places and experience new things. Or the old shoes need to go and visit a local cobbler for an overhaul...

Just a few thoughts. There is always more than one way to solve a dilemma...

Xetta,

Very true there are always more then one way to solve a dilemma, I just don't know if a cobbler is going to be able to repair the damage to the old comfy shoes!!!

Dawn

New shoes are nice too. Some are stylish and comfy. Plus, you get to look around and see what you really like. What meets the needs of your current wardrobe. With old shoes, you sort of need to make the current wardrobe go with them.

At least I do, since I spend more on a pair of shoes than I do on a dress or pants and top. But then, I take extremely good care of said shoes, with shoe trees and keeping them in boxes, and polishing them and resoling them.

I think the analogy breaks down with "keeping them in boxes." Just imagine a set of miniturized men in see-through shoe boxes. And you get to choose one for the day, or night.... And then, put him back!

Yeah, BG seems comfy, but from what I gather, he is not even close to being "right" for ya, Dawn. So, when you end up putting up with "comfy" even if it is not "right", you are comitting the #1 faux pas of dating, which is staying with something that is not good just because you are afraid that you won't find anything better.

I'd say lose the old comfy shoes, and go shoe shopping for some nice new shiny ones.

AGG

The questions is were do I go shopping for these new shoes?

The places that I spend the most time don't really carry any new shoes, they are pretty much the old comfy kind.

I've done the singles group, that just isn't me, sorry. I am in church and volunteer at church all of the time. I volunteer with the kids bowling program and I work at school, I don't have much time to go shoe shopping as I take care of my grandsons 4-5 nights a week. The online thing is scary, that is where I cam up with the whole comfy shoe thought.

I've thought I might take some continue ed classes, have done the Walmart produce aisle. None of my friends seem to have anyone that they need to hook me up with.

I am just at a loss at to were I might shop for some new shiny shoes. Any thoughts!!!!

Greengables, I too take very good care of shoes and will want to take care of any new ones in the same way!!!!

Dawn

I met a really nice single woman in WalMart on Sunday.

She and her daughter wer buying a bike and I tested it to make sure it was properly assembled and found a defect.

I'm not interested in her, but it was nice to be appreciated.

Guys like to "help out" and look like they are a hero.

Hint hint

Bookstore, find a sweet young thing into the books you like, which is sometime rare.

Dawn,

Home Depot and Lowes might be a good place to find some new shoes ;-)

They are there trying to finish their honey-do lists.

We have Menards and Lowes here, tried them both in the early morning hours and guys my dad's age would be the ones to hit on me.

I pretty much can take care of things for myself and have been told that I don't play the bimbo part well. I usually have guys asking me for my help or opinion!

Have been to the book store in a while may have to try the home improvement area again.

Dawn

Better yet, go to the home improvement section of the book store - then you'll know that the guys you'll meet are handy and know how to read - and they'll know the same about you! Win-win.

AGG

Wasn't part of our past that we kept the old shoes way beyond the time, and expected them to spiff up on their own?

We handed the shoes the polish, told them how to do it, and they still didn't feel they needed to change. Hmmm.

I don't think there are any single eligible men in my county. I met another divorced mom who said as much at the bus stop.

Remember how you shopped for new school shoes every year and your mom had to make sure that they fit just right, mine always had to have a thumbs width between your toes and the toe of the shoe. Also made you walk in them to see if they slipped on the heel.

But you really didn't care you were just so excited to be getting new shoes, cause everyone else the first day of school would have new shoes too!!!

I want new hoes!!!!!!!! I want the excitement of having new shoes!!!!!!! I feel like I am being left out without having new shoes.

And there might be eligible men in my county but they haven't found their way to my front door yet!!!!

Dawn

I found some new shoes!!!! Nothing that I am going to keep, held onto the receipt!!!

But the old shoes were right there next to the new shoes, had some fun shopping. Went to listen to a local blues/jazz trio that is awesome, and then hit two other places to listen to some music.

It was fun and some alone time that I needed for me!!!

Dawn

Just curious, but why do you spend 4-5 nights a week watching grandkids?

Cause my daughter is a single mother with 2 kids and a third on the way. She divorced shortly after she found out she was PG and it is her x's. Anyways she work 3-11pm and so my mom and dad watch them from 2:30-4:30 I pick them up and they are with me the rest of the night. My daughter was staying at home and going to school when she divorced and we didn't really want the boys going to day care, so we all pitch in and help. They are awesome little boys, quite the gentlemen!!! They won't be taking after their father!!!!

Most of the time I love it!!! But I was not a working mom when my kids were little, this is exhausting!!!! I stayed home and did day care which is a job in itself don't get me wrong, but it was different then trying to get kids picked up, get home, make dinner and so on.I was home and did laundry around day care same with supper.

As a bud said I did it to myself, I also pointed out that at this time there wasn't another that needed my time and attention my daughter knows that when that time comes, I will cut back. But for now this works most of the time!!!

Dawn

Well, I went barefoot in the yard a couple of times recently because I had put the slip-on shoes I usually wear outdoors in the laundry... I felt sort of vulnerable and even scared (that I might step on a bee or wasp or sharp stick) walking through the grass. Then I remembered that when I was a teenager I RARELY wore shoes outdoors!

For now I am content to be by myself. Not that I wouldn't want to marry again IF the right man asked but I would rather stay single than to settle. It took a long time for me to feel this way - I really did NOT want the divorce and had a very hard time giving up hope on WXH. I soemtiems wonder what exactly I saw in him... a little bit of it was the comfy old shoe thing... But he managed to burn bridges pretty thoroughly and I just can't envision him ever repairing the damage done (even if he wanted to which apparently he doesn't).

BTW I have some VERY pretty, sexy, UNCOMFORTABLE shoes which I RARELY wear... BUUT they make nice decorations for the bedroom LOL.

So: Old comfy shoes vs. new shoes that still have to be broken in... For now I think I prefer barefoot - just being myself, by myself.

I found my new shoes in the back of my closet. They were barely worn. They didnt fit 30 years ago, but they are a perfect fit now <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I pray you find some new shoes soon. Its starting to get cold out, need something to keep you warm

I don't know!!! I am thinking that I want to pull those old shoes out and explore how much wear they still have in them.

We still spend alot of time together and have done some talking, we talked about being with a group of people and still being lonely, there is something there but both of us are afraid to put the friendship on the line. As my OD said I don't know that all that much would change if you two were to hook up. You would just have someone to share with.

I don't know he is not a hat wearing kind of guy and he had a sox hat on last night and he smelled so good. That is the one thing about being married that I really miss is the smell of colgne/aftershave right after a shower in the morning, I about melted last night.

I am just trying to come up with a way to bring it up about there being something more and giving either of us an out option.

I don't know, I am lonley and I am tired of feeling this way!!!!

Dawn