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I'm just curious, I everyone here had just one wish, what would that one wish be? Would you wish that your spouse never cheated, or that you could have known that you weren't meeting needs of the betrayer? Would you wish for the pain to go away in a flash or wish your spouse to be able to feel the pain without you phyiscally/emotionally having an affair?<P>I'm just curious as to what people would wish for if they ever had the chance. Yes I realize that these thoughts are just wishful thinking, that they won't change anything in the past, but I'm just curious.
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Easy...I want all the gain with none of the pain!<P>I would like to keep and continue to improve all we have learned while recovering from this big horrible mess, but I would like the whole affair not only erased in our brains, but in real life too.<P>And they all lived happily ever after.... <BR><P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13
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One wish?<P>Eve, ignore the serpent, walk away from the tree. ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif)
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If I only had one wish, I would wish for three more wishes (is that cheating?):<BR>1. I would wish my spouse never strayed.<BR>2. I would wish I knew I wasn't meeting her needs (or even what her needs were).<BR>3. I would wish we could start over again, because now I know how to be a great husband. <P>All those a side, and knowing the past can not be erased, my only wish is that we have a loving, caring marriage where we both desire to meet one another's needs. And as FHL said, we live happily ever after .<P>SHA
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I'm with you SHA. Actually, your wish #3 would cover the first two if you were able to go back in time. I too wish I had known then what I know now. <P>Oh, well... "if Ifs and Buts were candy and nuts, we'd all have a merry Christmas" - or something like that!
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I agree..I wish I would had LISTENED when my wife would tell me when I wasn't meeting her needs instead of belittling or ignoring them
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hopeful1771 -- I think Faith Hope Love said it best <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I would like the whole affair not only erased in our brains, but in real life too.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>What would you wish?<BR>
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That's easy! I'd wish that both my husband and I could have known all that we know now before the affair happened...That is, that he would know how unhappy he'd wind up with her, and I'd have understood how miserable he was in our marriage.<P>But wishes aren't horse so beggars can't ride...so on we press toward the future God has for us. Stronger, wiser, and hopefully happier very soon.<P>------------------<BR>When you go through deep waters and great trouble, I will be with you. Isaiah 43:2<P>
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Hi Hopeful -<P>I've been waiting for a genie to grant me a wish since I was a little kid.<P>My answer is the same now as it would have been then....only now I have a fuller meaning of the ramifications that would occur and they have so much more impact.<P>My wish is that every single human being would treat every other person as they would want to be treated.....<P>Not only would infidelity be extinct but think of the nonexistance of war, crime, etc.......<P>Oh, what a wonderful world this would be!!!<P>Hugs,<P>Sheba
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I wish I would have known that he considered straying while we were engaged. Never would have married him. I am also going to cheat and make a 2nd wish - that for the last 12 years he would have talked to me about problems we have. Things would have been easier to fix if he would have told me what bothered him. <P>------------------<BR>Faithjoy
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My wish could happen, but I just don't know how to do it:<P>I would wish that I could learn to live in my skin.<P>Today has been a bad day. I sometimes want to go back to 1980 and begin my marriage all over again... but honestly, just living with the way things are right now would be one heck of a good wish.<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>
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I wish I could have earned enough money to support the family by myself, so he could have been a stay-at-home parent and/or worked for himself like he and I both always wanted. The only times during our marriage when he was not depressed was when he simultaneously liked his work and we had enough money.
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<BR> I wish fairytales really did come true....<P>
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The thing that I would wish for is the thing that I pray for everyday: that my W knows that I love her with the LOVE that comes from God only. Because of the things that she has gone through in her life, I know she doesn't understand the depth of that LOVE. I, like Jesus, would be willing to die on the cross to save her for eternity. That is why I stay because I have to show her His LOVE. I am merely a broken vessel that He is molding into His image.<P>I used to think I wanted the pain to go away. I don't want that; I want it to be minimized now.<P>------------------<BR>God Bless,<BR>Rob<P><BR>
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Hmmm, <BR>I'd have to many things to wish for. I guess it would boil down to: I wish I knew my wife was so selfish and hypocritical before I married her. I also would wish she could understand and or feel the pain she has caused me and the family by her being so selfish and hypocritical.<BR>Is that too harsh?
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Blues - I don't think that is too harsh
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I would wish that my husband would have trusted me enough to tell me that he thought about straying before it ever happened. If he had told me, he would have realized how much pain it would cause me and he never would have gone through with it.
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My wish would be that my H never betrayed me.
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Why is it my wish would be that I didn't love my husband so much? <P>If I didn't I wouldn't have to be in so much pain when he tells me he has fallen out of love with me. And I wouldn't have to hurt so much because I knew I caused it.
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