My wife moved out last weekend, and is still having an affair with another man. I recently revealled the affair to her friends and family, but I am a little how to follow plan A if she is already out of the house? We have gone to dinner and coffee a couple of times and it is a nice time, as long as we don't talk about any of the relationship problems. After she found out I revealled the affair to her friends and family she told me that she was going to cut all contact with me for at least a week while she was on vacation with her parents and grandparents. I feel like with her out of the house, and with no reason to stop the affair, I really have no way to start/continue with plan A. When I talked to my therapist, she said that i should stop being so nice to my wife (I helped her move in, and I set up her furniture, bought her a house warming gift) because now she is getting all the perks of being married without actually being married. So how do I covince her that I have changed and am willing to make her happy if she won't be around?

Thanks,
Ryan.

You may want to post on the GQII forum as it has better traffic. Also, this is the start of the weekend and not as many people repond then.

Anyway, there are much more informed people who can give you the answer whether you are already past A and into B as your wife is out of the house, but I had a question for you. You mentioned that you exposed to family and friends. Is the OM married? You said that you have no way to stop the affair, but exposure is one of the biggest tools in the arsenal for that. Your biggest ally in all this would be his wife if the OM is married.