So far so good. I have told him I did not want him to call her anymore. He promise that he would not. I told him I will see. He has been calling me at work, which he only do in case of an emergency. I got a dozen of roses sent to me at work, which I normally get on my birthday and our anniversary. He keep telling me I will never disrespect you. I am taking it all in but I still have my detectives working for me. Meaning my sister-in-law(his brother's wife) we are very close and she lives down where the cousin is at. I have talked with her and she told me that she had seen the cousin driving my husband's truck(which he told me about after I question him about him calling her)and her husband was with them. She stated that she went outside of her house to see who was driving because she seen the cousin getting out of the truck. My sister-in-law stated that my husband and her husband introduce her as their cousin. She has my back. We communicate everyday. Anyway thank you for asking. The name thing was a trip. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Don't worry about the name thing. Some folks here are kind of sensitive.

Keep checking. You may have nipped this in the bud, or your husband may just be getting more careful.

How was the marriage before this?

Now is the time to work on any changes you need to make. You should be trying to meet his top emotional needs and be spending 15 hours a week doing fun things together.

Our marriage was good. We use to go a lot of places. Me, him and our son. I notice that he would always want to go home every weekend. We live in another city. I would go sometime and somtimes I would not. His mother just passed away last month and we spent a lot of time at our hometown. I could tell something was going on because he just acted funny. Being married 27 years you would think that you would know everything but you do not. But I am going to take your advice. You are right about taking 15 minutes of fun things. I did get a promotion at work and I started staying at work a little later than I had been and I promise him that I would not do like I did on my other job working all the time. I am an assistance director at an assisting living. Maybe you are right about his emotional needs also. Thank you for the advice and I will keep you informed. I still have my eyes wide open because I know they will lie to your face and still do the same thing.