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I am the Husband that did not want to ever be like my father. I seemed like the one during courtship, and thought that I was the one. 6 years of disrespect through neglect and now Wife is done. She sees that I was never going to stop looking at porn behind her back, and I could never own up to why. She sees that I am sexist and degrading from the beginning of marriage, which she was pregnant.

Seems like I loved her, up until I got her to put on ring, then I saw her as a "mommy", and then all the stereotypes that I denied ever believing, I started to play out. Did not understand self, and disrespected wife, many lies. Otherwise, show lots of Love.

Now she is done, sees nothing in me to believe in. I am only owning up, and trying to change now that I do not have the "upper hand" that I thought I had. Please, is there enough reason for her to want me to stay?

She sees that I am a great father, and I have shown her compassion, but not in the sexual department. I have had no sexual relationship, in her eyes, if I was lying and looking at porn behind back. Now I realize that I have been acting out sexist views that I never wanted to be. I have been more like my Father then I ever realized! Man, I am changing, but she sees nothing to look back on in the marriage, and courtship was too long ago. Where to start regaining trust? Trying so much, and seeing counselor. This site helps, but she has lost faith in MAN-kind!

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You don't need our opinion. You need a plan. Go read His Needs/Her Needs and Surviving an Affair. You are behind in the M department and need to get out of the selfish mode and catch up.

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I've read all the info and make great advancements, but my question is should she look forward to, and how does she stop feeling like I am just one of the many men that don't respect women, and she doesn't just want me to change my opinions because I am at the point of losing my "power" over her. She has read all of the info, also, and wanted what she saw me for when we got married. I was not that. "wolf in sheep's clothing.


Engaged-1 yr.
Married-6 yrs.
Kids-4 and 6
W-3 yrs older
Young couple headed for 30.

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