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i previously had a post under given up too soon. Not been on this site for the past two months. During those time I had been on plan A, limiting LBs. I guess or I thought things were working out as WH had been nice to me and the kids. meaning, the long face and sulk had gone. He was as loving as before. During the last 2 months he had even spoken of us in retirement days. He even said that he doesn't have a GF. Although I did not fully believe that the A is over. I noticed reduced contact with OW until recently. I got to know that OW was in town and they spent the nite. I questioned him whether he is still in contact with OW and he just said, It seems there is no end to my allegations.
Yes, I did expose the A to his HR a month ago, but it seems there was no effect.
Over the weekend I did my best to remain calm and nice to him (except no sex) but it hurts. I did not tell him what I know and he carried on as if all's well. I chose to kepp calm for the sake of the kids. My son is preparing for his High school exams next month.
Help. I just do not know what to do. I do not feel angry anymore. Wanting to stop the pain by throwing the towel in but I am afraid of a future without him considering our 20yrs marriage. I was advised by a lawyer friend not to make the first move to end the M.
Is there hope??? Pls advise.
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Joined: Aug 2007
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(((SadButNotOut)))
I'm going to try and find your 1st post to get a better understanding of your situation, and post back later.
Just wanted to let you know someone hears you!
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Joined: Jan 2001
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Recommend you prepare to execute plan B. Have you read SAA, HNHN & LMBT? Where are you at with your MC?
Are your heart and mind in sync?
L.
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Joined: Apr 2006
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If you don't feel angry...
What is it you feel?
Peace
Max
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I'm with Orchid. Prepare for Plan B. Do your kids know about their father's affair?
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