Let me give you a bit of background here. Married for 12 years. Two boys. I was a stay at home mom for a few years, WH works for a small company where he is the favorite worker. I went to college and became a nurse to which WH showed no support, him making the most money was always important to him always. A bit of jealousy there. In our first two years of marriage I found a phone number in his truck to which he stated he just wanted to see if he could get the girls number. He got this number pulling up to a stop light on his way home from work. We had seperated for a few days got back together and life went on. We moved and bought our second house 3 years later. WH needing and wanting to make more money, many hours at work, traveling out of state for his company. Back from his trip from Mexico I found red hair in his brush to which he said it may have been the maids hair. I knew better. Life went on me working as a Nurse, the kids in day care. Always fighting about his time away from home and working. I ended up being diagnosed with panic disorder and am now taking meds for that.
Now to the point WH truck has been missing for a week to which he says is at work and is using the company car. I didnt really check on this because WH uses it for travel at times. A week after this WH says I have something to confess to you. I was busted with a hooker at 6:30 in the morning and the police took my truck. I could not believe this! I asked him why, WH said I was just curious. I cannot belive this man could do this to me and my children. The boys heard every word as they were listening through the upstairs vents. He claims this is his first time. I feel the only reason he confessed this is because he has to go to court and will be needing money for that and I am the one that handles our monies and would know if and when money is withdrawn.
He had a week to tell me this and 2 days before court he hits me with this. I just don`t know what to do. I love him.

I am so sorry.

You DO know that the other lies about where he was, whether there was a woman, that this getting caught was inevitable.

I hope you get yourself tested for STDs.

Do you want to stay married? Even if he has cheated?

I'd be tempted to tell him Heck no, I'm not giving you any money for court. Get a Public Defender and get out of this on your own. I don't know whether that would be considered a Love Buster.

My opinion is that is not his first time; just the first time he was caught.

Wish I had advice. I am foggy from lack of sleep. Hopefully the veterans will come to your aid soon.

((((((((teesun))))))))))

Yes Im sure this is not his first time. Wh said if he would`nt havent been caught he would still be doing this
I did find out this was an undercover officer to which he offered $1500 for a BJ. He said he would watch men with these woman for about a year and then this one morning he decided to do this. I am so sick, I really dont know what to do. Court is this morning and I will be going. I am so emotionally drained.

teesun, how did court go?

Did you agree to give him money for court? (I wouldn't have.)

Just wondering: You manage the finances, where the heck did he come up with $1500 to pay for a BJ? This has got to be just horrible for you.

Oh, and I would not believe him that he only did this once. He only got CAUGHT once.

I was thinking about that too. Not only where did he get the money but how did he know how much to bring? I guess I am a bit nieve but I thought a BJ even from a "high end" ho would be 150-200 tops.

Court was upsetting and embarassing. He pleaded not guilty as his Lawyer wanted. As far as the $1500 he could have gottin it from his boss or my WH also has a side job he does for his company that earns him $80,000 a year. This was not a high end hooker, these were woman that hooked in a neighborhood around a company he had to go fix a machine at. WH hubby said he offered her $1500. And to boot that WH has been seeing a doctor for an erectile dysfunction problem, I think I know why now.