I really need some advice.
My husband and I have been married for 12 1/2 years, and in that time we lost something. We weren't intimate anymore etc... About two months ago my son and I went home to visit family and while I was there my mom became very ill. When it was time for me to come back home I sent my son on a plane and I stayed out to find out what was going on with my mom. A few days later my father died. about a week or so my husband wanted to know when I was coming home, just kept asking me all the time. He said I needed to move on with my life. He needed to know. I honestly couldnt tell him because I was emotional wreck trying to deal with all of this. Finally, I couldn't take it anymore and I said that I was not coming home. I wanted a divorce.
I contacted an attorney for legal advice, but never went threw with any of it. He ask me a handful of times to come home. He just didn't really seem as though he cared.

Anyway, we fought back and forth and one day I said I'm coming back home I want to work this out atleast for our son's sake, my husband agreed..and I did about two weeks ago.
Last week I found emails from him and another women planning on going out on a date. Only 7wks after I said I was done. he said nothing came of it. Then, this past sat he gets a text from someone saying "i'm thinking of you"
I don't know what to think. He said he didn't know who it was and that he's gotten phone calls lately that he didn't know. He looked at me in the eyes and said that he didn't know who the person was... So, yesterday I asked him if I could look at our cell phone website to see the number and find out if that was her are not. he got mad and had a fit because he thinks that I should be moving on and not letting any of this affect me~he also says that it's not my business because I said I was divorcing him and I left.

Now, this morning I found out that the wrong numbers weren't wrong number but someone else he was chatting with online...
I understand that I left and told him that I wasn't coming home, but when I came back home why couldn't he be upfront with me about all of this instead of telling one lie after another. He wasn't even going to tell me that he was going to go out with another women. etc...
I know I have left out stuff (I don't want to write a book), but someone please tell what to do... I feel like I can't move past and try and rebuild a new life with him. Am I wrong to feel this way?

first off, H does know who the wrong numbers are, H does know what he has been up to and if H thought he was doing nothing wrong H would be telling the truth.

you tell him that if he wants to work out this M then he needs to come clean on everything, whether you were seperated or not dosen't matter you were still M

if H dosen't come clean then there is a big risk of H having and or continuing an A

it is your business