Annie - I was wondering how you were doing since your post on Saturday. Boy, your H is a real piece of work! I suppose it's a good sign he is not 100% certain he wants a divorce - but why then can't he at least be l00% certain about giving it his best effort to see if your marriage can be saved? He seems so hopelessly confused!<BR>My heart sank when I read you talked about telling your daughter you were divorcing. Please don't do that unless you are both 100% sure. For as long as I live I will never forget the day my husband came home, told me he was leaving and then went into my then 9 year old daughter's room and told her he was moving out and we were divorcing. I have never seen her so angry and hurt and had to hold her while she cried herself to sleep many nights. Someday I will post the things she wrote in her journal and to her father during that time - its a real tear jerker. How old is your daughter? <BR>Well, I was just hoping there was some positive movement in your story...take care