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My wife has been having an EA with a man she met in July of 06. Right after she met him things changed. we have had problems in the past but I didn't realize that they were that bad. In October 06 I moved out and left my kids to be with her. When I was gone the late night phone calls from our home phone were numerous. Needless to say I couldn't handle being out of the house, so I moved back in in December and she moved into an apartment. That month at Christmas she told me he basically kicked her off his property. I don't know the real reason. In January of this year she wouldn't let things die and went to see him and "talk" things out. Well this has become my private he**.She moved back home in March because of money.
They have talked basically everyday at least three or four times a day, she lived up there this whole summer claims there is nothing physical with them and he wants nothing to do with "love" but he says he loves her as a friend. The fighting has become violent with her striking me and me verbally attacking her.
She still thinks a separation is the best thing for all involved. I don't. I am making her move out because I can see a future she is in her own little fog with guy.
I also found out more about him - Twice divorced, history of violence, arrested this past June for beating up 3 or 4 people, threatened to beat me up.
My question is do I let her go and let her see what she is doing is wrong or dso I keep fighting.
Thanks
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contact a lawyer TODAY TODAY TODAY...regarding the children
and find out about your rights...
do you can you get clear documentation on the violence and then take steps to block any and all potential contact with violent man...
you can't play the violent card and then not take that issue by the throat..
there is no powerstruggling that one...
here's the thing....
you need to consider going 1000000000000000% no contact with her...
july of 06 till now ...means you are way way way overdo for a huge power up MAN up....move...
this has become what you know and normal for you...
very very dangerous for you to lose yourself....
ARK
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She still thinks a separation is the best thing for all involved. I don't. I am making her move out because I can see a future she is in her own little fog with guy.Thanks A seperation IS THE BEST THING! It is in her best interest, your best interest and most especially the best interest of your children. Get her moved out, get a legal seperation or divorce agreement in place and then go into what we call PLAN B, which is a completely DARK seperation that is begun with a letter giving her conditions for her return, ie: ending her affair, etc. In Plan B, you would NEVER see or talk to her. Any communication would be handled by a designated intermediary. I would also make sure that your children are NEVER EVER around this creep. You do know this is also a physical affair, right?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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SB,
Some women fall very hard for the guy in prison. Forsaking all to be with this hardened criminal. Who knows why?
Your W seems to have this gene or whatever it is.
""she lived up there this whole summer claims there is nothing physical with them and he wants nothing to do with "love" but he says he loves her as a friend.""
Loves her as a friend with benefits!
"claims there is nothing physical with them"
If you believe that, I have some ocean beach property in Nebraska you may be interested in.
My answer to your question? LET HER GO GO GO GO GO!!
Make sure her medical insurance is paid up.
IMHO
kirk
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Quick update:
WS went to see him again this weekend, now my daughter says she doesn't like her mommy seeing OM. She has till the end of the month to move out.
Are all women who are in a fog desperate to dee or talk the OM, and not worry about what they are doing to their children?
Thanks for the advice, I have contacted a lawyer.
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if your wife hits you again, have her arrested for domestic assault. frankly, you do not need to wait...talk to yoru lawyer about filing charges against her now...
get away from this woman....protect your child.
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SB,
""Thanks for the advice, I have contacted a lawyer.""
I know I speak for most, if not all, of us here in the halls of MB, when I say THANKS FOR TAKING IT!
And yes there are horror stories of WSs, male and female, forsaking their families, children, financial security, friends, reputation etc, etc, etc..to chase the fantasy drug.
kirk
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