I have my own house!!

I am so excited, it can be decorated the way I want, I can have some peace. I moved last Saturday, and the WH actually helped me move. It was strange, I told him I was moving that Saturday, and he said he would be there. After all the avoidance, I told him that was not necessary because I had people helping me. He said he was going to be there too, because he needed to unhook the washer and dryer for me. Keep in mind, he works nights, and he actually stayed to help long after everyone else had left. I was proud of myself, I did not break down, did not cry, no Love Busters. I told him thank you, and let him go. He is supposed to be back over tomorrow to finish hooking up the washer and dryer. At any rate, my biggest problem is not overanalyzing everything. It went well, and I expect tomorrow will be okay too. He still has not filed for D, and the A is over.

What next? Can anyone tell me what to expect?

Good job on the Plan A!

How long do you have it in you to keep doing it? That's the real question.

If you can keep seeing him fairly regularly and can keep putting up the plan A do that. Be the person, but even a better version now, of the woman he fell in love with and wanted to marry.

Thanks. It actually was a relief and I didn't feel so heartbroken myself because I did not work myself up. I have been keeping our conversations light, not bringing up the A or the M, and just going with the flow. I am noticing more contact, and found out he is continuing to see the psychiatrist. That is good, I just hope that he/she is helping my WH sort out his issues! I don't know, I still miss him so much, but it is not as painful. Is that normal? I actually have moments where I think I don't want him anymore, although the other moments outweigh that.

When the moments you don't think you want him anymore start to outweigh your love for him you need to consider a dark Plan B.

Have you studied at all on Plan B?


All very normal CJL.

I have. I have two of Dr. Harley's books, His Needs Her Needs and Surviving an Affair. I have read them both. It just scares me, because I still love him all the time, but sometimes I think I am using a bit of self preservation because I wonder if he feels the same. My other problem is that everyone gives different advice, and I am doing my best not to listen to them and follow my own instincts. I just wonder if I can trust my own instincts or not...

It is best not to trust your own instincts right now, but instead follow the plans here.