1. 4 years ago, (early stages of my pending separation/divorce) I briefly met this guy, he was with a few other gentlemen. I chatted to the group for maybe 15 min. and that was it..THough, a did think of him a few times, thought there could be an attraction, I guess he made a descent first impression. Never saw him again....

and really I wasn't emotionally ready to date, I was stillhoping my M would work out and I still very much loved WH.

FAST Forward - I ran into him on Friday - I didn't recognize him, though he did remember me. We chatted he was just leaving the restaurant, asked if I was dating, which I said I have dated, though right now, I am not dating anyone. Asked if I wanted to go out with him - which I did -so I gave my number, before he left, he said he would call.

WELL - it's Tuesday and I havent' heard from him. I feel like I'm in high school again - anticipating a phone call..
I thought I was way beyond that..My expectation was that he would call by Sunday. But, maybe in his mind, he won't call until closer (later in the week) to when he would like to go out.

So - what's the norm? When you give someone your phone number as to when they call?

Ok - so let's say we do go out this week-end
Next Tuesday, I am scheduled for surgery ( probably won't go out in public or 3 weeks, if I heal quick) I'm getting my "eyes done"..Should I tell him what I am getting done, or just say I'm having elective surgery and will be homebound for awhile???

Some people may think it's vain or high maintenance to get your eyes done, but it's something I want to do. I feel the last 5 years have aged me 20 years and I want to be my old self again..

There is no norm. It sounds like he asked in a general sense, not in the sense of "would you want to go out this weekend?". So he may call today, in a week, in a month, etc. Of course if it were me, I would know that the length of time it takes to call is an indirect (if not direct) indication of his interest. If it drags on for more than a couple of weeks, I'd rate his interest as very low. Doesn't mean I wouldn't go out on the date, but I would have this additional info in my hip pocket.

AGG

I agree with AGG, how long it takes for him to call is directly connected to how interested he is.

If his priority/plan was to have a date with you this weekend, he should have called no later than Wednesday (I think). Its very presumptious of him to call later than that and expect you'd have no plans.

In fact a lot of the "dating" books for women suggest that if he hasn't called early in the week -- that you should be "busy" even if you're not.

I too think the level of interest is shown by how quickly he follows up on calling me.

He did say he is very busy work wise right now. But, he seemed very enthusiastic/happy about our running into each other. He even mentioned that he has thought about me a few times since we met,( which I did not tell him that I've thought of him too). He added that he would like to stay and talk more, but that he had to run because of meeting his family at the local football game.

I guess if it was me and I was glad (which I am) that I had a 2nd opportunity to connect with someone that I thought I had interest in - I'd be calling, if nothing else, but to say it was nice to see them again and gather more info about them.

If he doesn't call till late Thursday or Friday, I think I'll be "busy"....but, I may say that I'm available to met for lunch on Sunday.

Ok - If he calls, What about the surgery, should I tell???

I wouldn't tell about the surgery. Is there a need for him to know that you are having your eyes done? Do you want him to talk you out of it? Do you want him to take care of you after surgery? There really isn't a reason for him to know at this time. If he calls while you are recovering you might tell him then as you can't go out but would still like to spend sometime with him, order a pizza and invite him over.

Dawn

I don't think he needs to know anything about any surgery - you haven't even scheduled the first date yet <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. One step at a time!

AGG