Hey,
OK, I'm not married. Not really even close to the age. I'm a teen but I figured you guys could help. My girlfriend and I have been dating juuust about 1 year. I KNOW I want to stay with her, but "normal" teen stuff is getting in the way for me. We eventually started to do stuff we probably shouldn't have done. I won't have sex, but anything else I would have considered "fair game." After a while, I feel into some pretty heavy depression. I've been on meds and seeing a phsycologist ever since. But anyways, she's since changed her mind on how she feels about that stuff, and feels we should no longer be doing that stuff. Well for me...being a teen, and seeing what it's like. Have sortof got addicted...bad. It's gotten way out of hand. I can't seem to stop asking for things. I've became so addicted that I have developed a very strong feeling for that stuff, and so it's been incredibly hard to stop. Well recently, I decided we should take a break from each other for a while because I couldn't stop. It's just hard, because I've seen "the other side" and what it's like, and quite frankly...I like it. So it's really hard to stop. Well even now, on our break, I can't stop thinking about that kind of stuff with her. She has a quite appealing chest (teenager thinking), and I can't seem to stop thinking about it. BUT I WANT TO BAD!! I need some help getting over this addiction. I would give ANYTHING...if we could magically be happy together. I would give up my car, computer...ANYTHING. I want to be with her SOOO bad but it's just really hard to hang in there right now. I need LOTS of advice. Help me out. Thanks.

You are doing the right thing by taking a break from each other. If you are meant to be together, you will do the things necessary to be together. You sound like a very nice young man.

Exercise, and develop some new interests to keep your mind off of things.

You know if you have a psychologist-you should speak with him or her...and if you can't, someone you trust...is that a choice?

Max

Ditto that. And everything you wrote is normal and natural and understandable. Sex is great! At your age your sex drive is th highest it will ever be. And sex of any kinds binds people together.

The two of you aren't ready to be bound together right now. You know that even not "going all the way" can cause pregnancy. That brings up a whole set of problems and commitments, and now isn't the time to deal with that.

So, who can you talk to who will understand? In real life - not that we're sending you away from the Boards, but it would be wonderful for you to sit and talk with someone qualified.

Did you talk to your mother or dad? They are the best ones to speak to because they know you, love you, and have your best interest at heart.