WH and I have been seperated since July. I want a divorce, and have as little as possible to do w/ him. But I'll admit, I'm curious to know how things maybe going in affairland. WH will not discuss divorce or talk about the OW, at all. Any insights? I wish I didn't care about what he's doing, but I do.

These two quotes don't add up.

Have you filed for divorce? Are you in Plan B?

We have separation papers signed. I'm filing for divorce in the next month or two. Money is an issue. I think getting a divorce doesn't mean I don't care anymore. For me, it's about protecting myself. WH's current OW is just one of many. He's unrepentant and unremorseful. Told me I'm getting what I deserve, and he is the way he is because of me.

He lives 7 hours away and will probably never move closer, not even for the kids. I've given up hope that our marriage can be saved. But I still love him, and I was willing to forgive the affairs if he was willing to repent. He's not even close.

I can't say I'm doing plan B. I'm just trying to detach and distance myself. Not because I hope it'll bring him to his senses, but because I really feel it's time for me to move on. But I still have feelings for him. We've been married 13 years. It hurts like ****** that he's got someone else.

Only a miracle of God could save my marriage, but I don't want him to go on to have a great relationship w/ the OW. There's that part of me that's hoping it's all falling apart for him.

I can't imagine that I'll ever get to a time where I don't have any more feelings for him. It's not like I can go N/C w/ him. Moving on sucks.

WH is beating me to the punch. He sent an email saying he's going to pick up a divorce package from the courthouse tomorrow and he's going to file in the next couple of weeks.

Maybe I'm not as ready for this as I thought I was. I feel sick about it, and it's what I thought I wanted to happen. It's all so confusing and difficult. Maybe I'm not as strong as I thought I was.

There's no path that feels right.

SL,

Homework assignment....read the above that YOU wrote 1,000 times tonight and then when you are through go and get a mean bulldog attorney and hold this idiot accountable. He is a narcissit, nobody matters but him. The women are just a way to fill a hole in him that can't be filled with earhtly things and this new OW will find out that she is just for his use and when he tires of her there will be another OW.

Being alone or with someone else is not nearly as bad as being in abusive relationship and that is what you are in with WH. Find the strength to do what you need to do to protect you and kids and leave WH to God's plan for him (it won't be pretty and he WILL fall, I promise). At that point he may be humble enough to approach if you aren't already taken. Do not be disrespected any longer. Don't be afraid of this goober. See him for who he is and don't fret about starting over or being alone for a short while.