Ok here goes. I will try to make this short and to the point sorry if it is kind of long.

My husband and I have been married for three years this November and been together for seven total. He just started a new carrer in July as a police officer and for the first three months worked strait nights. Prior to this we have always been on about the same schedule, pretty much Monday through Friday now all of a sudden it seems like he is never around. He has worked every holiday when we were always off them together. He is even going to be working Christmas day which is really hard for me because that is a time we always spend with family and he is not going to be there. Since he has started we fight constantly which he blames on me and I don't know maybe it is my fault. In the beginning when we started talking about him becoming a police officer I told him to go for it because it is what he has always wanted to do, not knowing how it would be. Now it is tearing our marrige apart and it has only been 4 months. It seems like everytime something comes up he is working and never around. He has tried to make it better by getting put on a rotation of one month days and the next nights, but with me having a full time job as well this still makes things difficult. He is off all the time during the week when I'm at work and he works on the weekends when I'm off. I really don't know what to do. He says if I had a problem with it I should have said something in the beginning instead of now but neither one of us knew it was going to be like this. Now he says that he would rather get a divorce then ever change his carrer which really hurts to hear coming from your husband. I don't want him to be a cop anymore because it has caused nothing but problems between us and he doesn't want to quit which I do understand because this is what he has always wanted to do, but I don't know what to do to keep us together. He says I should just get over it and be happy with the way thing s are now becausae they are not going to change no matter what. I think I sould have a say as this is my life to. I am really hurt and confused because he never used to say hurtful things to me until he became a cop, it is completly changing him. I was raised that family should come first no matter what and he is chosing his career over his family. i really don't wnat to get a divorce but I think I have a right to be happy as well. Any help would be greatly appericiated.Thank you in advance.