I'm wondering if any of you have been successful in overcoming their spouse's emotional affair? And if you have any suggestions of what I should or shouldn't be doing? My husband of 12 years is having an emotional phone/internet affair with a woman who he says he's in love with. Yeah right! We've finally agreed on a truce, I've agreed not to start the same fight night after night, and in exchange he won't get online until atleast 9:30 and not in the room where I am. So for a week now, almost every night at 9:30 he hops in the shower then goes down to the basement where he's sleeping now and lays in bed with his laptop. How sad is that? Last night it really got to me, and I was crying. He came up after I had stopped and asked if I'd been crying, I said yes, but didn't look at him, and he just went back downstairs, which started the crying all over again. Today for the 1st time in a very long time he called me just to see how I was doing. I sent him an email a few days ago saying that I missed my friend as much if not more than I miss my husband. And that even if I can't have my husband back, I'd really like to have my friend back. I have looked at many different websites that claim to help you fix your marriage, but I have no money to spend. I am looking for any advice that might be out there, all is appreciated.