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#1959099 10/24/07 05:16 PM
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My ex and I decided to sell our acreage, consisting of a 4 BR farmhouse and 8 acres of woods. The lawyer worked out the financial details of who gets what after it's sold. My ex has taken a totally passive approach to the whole thing... in other words, he does nothing, except call me every once in a while to see if he's getting a check yet. I talked to my banker and he suggested I try to sell it myself, as it's a very sellable property and then I won't have to give as much money to a broker. So, I'm looking for suggestions.

I've printed up some posters with a nice picture and information and phone number to hang in various public places; and I'm putting an ad in the local papers. This is a small community, about 5,000 people. Any other suggestions? I am keeping track of expenses, so as to add them to my share after the sale is final.

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The expenses will be halfed, keep that in mind.


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Expenses should also include any repair fees to improve the state of the home. Travel expenses to show the home, etc.
One person always seems to do all the work while the other sits back and benefits.


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Pariah, you are right, of course. Newly, you are right too.....I don't think my ex will even lift a finger to fix anything around here; he certainly didn't when he lived here! In the last 6 months I"ve replaced the kitchen floor, put a light on the front porch (it never worked), fixed numerous doors, painted several rooms, and am working on numerous other fairly inexpensive repair projects.

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I hope you've saved all those receipts.
It's amazing how many of those little things need to be done to sell a house.
Thankfully my X bought me out, so all the repairs were his responsibility. (And all the liability too for all the stuff he wasn't allowed to do).


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H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*
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I wish I could buy my ex out......unfortunately, I have no cash and my credit is too shot to finance it in my own name. I guess I do look forward to the financial windfall, but I dread getting the house in shape to show to prospective buyers. and moving. ugh.

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I don't know if you've considered this, but don't be afraid to ask for help. From friends, family or church members. There are always people to help, if we just ask.
Think about making up a list of all the tasks you want to complete, and plan a work day, printing out copies of each task. If you can get just 6 friends over for a few hours, that could mean a few days work compared to if you did it alone.

I know with my old divorce support group, when someone moved into a new house, they would email the day and ask for help. I got to paint and people came over to help me. And they brought tools, and had ideas for cleaning things I didn't event think about.

Just because X wouldn't do anything doesn't mean that you don't have people who might help you.

We also have freecycle.org here. That's similar to Craig's list where people list their junk, and other people can use it. There might be used items on that which can be used in your home. I've given away 30 year old paneling and an old garage door. Other times I've seen patio blocks, drapery, furniture, etc.


It was a marriage that never really started.
H: Conflict Avoider, NPD No communication skills (Confirmed by MC) Me: Enabler
Sep'd 12/01, D'd 08/03.
My joys and the light of my life: DD 11, DD 9
*Approach life and situations from the point of love - not from fear.*

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