joo got mail lady.... :P

Vents are allowed as long as they are followed by blessings, as yours was.
I still can't try that rawfood diet, but I do need to get back on an exercise program.

I'm happy to hear there is snow your way, so the slopes can begin to get covered. Yippee.

I found an article on a search for parenting coordinators about braces. Basically it said that while many claim they can't pay because its "cosmetic". No defense attorney will be able to find a dentist who will claim cosmetic. There is always some necessary reason for braces. So, then it would be split as per your divorce decree.

hi newly how are ya? i am not too worried about the braces. if she needs he has to pay 80% like it or not. and bottom line is, he does have the money. he has cried poverty for as long as i have known him and he is full of sh*t.

i do not do completely raw food. you should check out the website and her book. there are levels you eat at. level 1 is completely raw.. there are 5 levels. level 5 is only making changes in your eating. i eat at a level 3, mostly raw, but some cooked whole grains, etc.. it is what is most comfortable for me. you don't have to even count calories with this way of eating however i am going to be keeping it around 1000 so i can get to my goal more quickly and be ready for this class and to be assessed for a jazzercise workshop. it is about food combining and eating certain things at certain times. it is not hard and i do not feel deprived.

i have to tell you all what happened today... one of the families i have on my caseload just decided to have services from my agency. they were going through a different agency before. when i worked in a different position with this agency many years ago i worked with this family so they knew who i was. however, when they asked to get the services (case management) from my agency they did not realize i was working there again. they had no idea who they would get and it just so happened that i got handed the case.

well, part of my job is NOT usually to drive people to their appointments. usually i just set people up with services, etc.. and am an advocate for them. however, i said i would try to help them out when i could and take them to appointments when i could.

today was a busy day and snowing and as i left the office i will admit i was grumbling that i had to take this mom and her son to the dentist. it was a lot of driving and it is friday and i was so thinking how much i didn't feel like doing it. i was running a bit late, but finally got there to pick up mom. then had to drive another 35 minutes to get son at school. then another 20 minutes to dentist. well, while he was in getting his teeth cleaned mom was chatting away with me as she had the whole time... then all of a sudden she just looks at me and says "i want you to know that i was really glad to hear that you were going to be the one working with our family. we really like you" sigh... i welled up a bit. i said thank you i was very happy to be working with them too while i silently admonished myself for griping about having to drive them today. it is stuff like that that makes my job fulfilling ya know?

no more griping allowed!

have a good friday night all. for those going out, have fun. i am going to hang with my kids. i'll take that over going out any night of the week!

mlhb

well,i got off of the beaten path a little bit yesterday with my eating... not too badly, but i did. but that is ok, i knew i was going to kick it up a notch starting today by cutting it back to 1000 to make sure i get as close to goal as i can for my plans this spring.

what is everyone doing today?? i am cleaning, bagging up stuff to give to a shop we have here in town that gives stuff away. (like clothing and household items. if you need something you just go in and you can have it! if you can afford it they just ask for a donation). so i have a lot of clothes bagged up i want to drop off there. i also have to take a math pretest for college and my son has a hockey game. oh, and do my jazzercise workout for practice and exercise.

we have definite snow now that appears to be staying. skiing will be open here soon. too bad i don't ski. lol

well, off to get some work done. i got up nice and early to get my workout in and get started on cleaning.

check in with ya later.
happy saturday.

mlhb

what a weekend. busy busy.

2 hockey games for my son, one sat, and one sunday. they lost sat but won today. it was a GREAT game! omg, i thought i was going to have no voice at the end. i am such a good screaming mother. "get it outa there! skate skate skate!!! what r u doing? OMG!" LOL yup, that is me.

we went and saw "mr. magoriums wonder imporium" (spelling) last night. the kids really liked it and it made me, miss emotional, cry of course. sigh... i am such a softy.

have not gotten as much cleaning done as i wanted. i am about to go and do some more right now though. i still need to get the last bit of food i will need for thanksgiving as well. it will be a small gathering so i am not doing a lot of food.

it is very quiet in the house right now.. dd is at her friends and ds is at his friends house... shhh... soooo quiet... i should go and take a nap! oh, i love naps.

happy sunday

mlhb

Thanks for the great phone conversation. Now I'm wondering if you napped before or after. Nonetheless, a new blog posting is up which should prove an interesting read. Have a great evening!

Dutch

hey you! you're welcome for the phone call. got to check in with ya once in a while! and i never napped... i laid down BEFORE i called you just on the couch and shut my eyes for like 5 minutes and back up i was.

read your blog, yes, i am gonna kick your a** you need to call jen!!!

i have a busy mon,tues,wed since i am taking thurs and fri off. (well, i am off on thurs anyway, but took half day wed and all friday off). i was beat yesterday, worked almost 12 hours :-(

what is up with married men? i sure seem to attract men that are already taken. single men around me seem to have no confidence to talk to me. but married or engaged or dating ones? not a problem. married guy at work, totally my type, BUT MARRIED, flirts non stop. and i mean some pretty blatant flirting. story of my life. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

well, gotta shower and get ready to go to work now.
had a stressful day yesterday i don't even want to talk about. let's just say sometime i feel like when i get a few steps forward something comes around to knock me a step or two back. grumble....

later
mlhb

well work has kinda slowed down so i'm catching up on my friends blogs. that's an awesome story you shared about your job. i wish my job had rewarding moments at times <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
i know, i know, look for a new one. 1000 calories seems low if you're exercising but you know your body. maybe i'll check out that movie tonite as i have few hours to kill after work before meeting up with a friend. you'll have those forward steps reclaimed again, just as in the past, you'll bounce back. yes it sucks that life isn't smooth.

PLEASE tell me you are not meeting some woman from craig's list again! if yes, than you need some serious smacking around.

thanks for the prayers by the way. i could not text anymore last night as i had an aweful migraine. i went to bed.

mlhb

hi mlhb... i'm at work now but i'll read your interactive diary over the course of the day

see all these people who support you?

ain't that cool?

I hope that you feel better today. Life is full of obstacles on our path to wherever we're going. Hopefully we're heading toward the light and some long deserved personal happiness.

To make your day, you know my personal status (single guy for the rest) and I'm attracted to the best parts of you, your mind, wit, intellect, and personality. But I'm too old for you! I think you're a great catch and your day will come. It the patience in between that's so hard.

MLHB, you are the best and you brighten my day just thinking of you. There are my Thanksgiving wishes on my blog. Send me some picture of your snow!

Dutch

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> wow....I think thats the sweetest compliment I have ever heard.....I got a tooth ache now. Go MLHB!

booka, that was very very kind.
and you are not too old for me! however u do live too far away. although neither one of us want someone who is constantly under foot so the distance might not be that big of a deal in our cases!

i'll go and read your blog and thank you again. you brighten my day as well.

mlhb

how did my little ole "me" thread get 5 stars??

i'm gonna cry...

i have a 5 star thread.

mlhb

>
>> ONE WISH
>>
>> A married couple, in their early 60s, was celebrating their 32nd
>> wedding anniversary at a quiet, romantic little restaurant. Suddenly,
>> a tiny beautiful Fairy appeared on their table.>
>> She said, 'For being such an exemplary married couple and especially
>> for being so thoughtful and loving to each other for all this time, I
>> will grant you each a wish.'
>> 'Oh, said the wife, I want to travel around the World with my darling
>> husband'
>> The fairy waved her magic wand and - poof! - two tickets for the Queen
>> Mary II luxury liner and Ten Thousand Dollars appeared in her hands
>> Then it was the husband's turn He thought for a minute and said:
>> 'Well, this is all very romantic, but an opportunity like this will
>> never come again. So I'm going with my mind and not my Heart '.
>> 'I'm sorry my love, but my wish is to have a wife 30 years younger
>> than me.'
>> The wife and the Fairy were shocked and disappointed. But a wish is
>> a wish. So, the Fairy waved her magic wand, and - Poof! - the husband
>> became
>> 92 years old.
>>
>> The Moral of the story:
>>
>> Men who are ungrateful ****** should remember; Fairies are Female.

snickers...
couldn't resist... hehe

love ya
mlhb <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

If this guy is your type, then make him not your type. Just for the heck of it, the next time he flirts with you, tell him very seriously that you are going to tell his wife what he said and watch him sweat. I have a big problem with married guys that try picking up chicks!

Keith

let me put it this way.. he is my type EXCEPT for the part that he is married and is flirting like that. THAT turns me off right there. i have seen him do it with other women as well, married women at that. i don't buy into that. some think when you are married or involved it is still ok to flirt. i don't. when i am with someone they have my all and no other man comes into the picture, flirting or otherwise. i expect the same.

i don't work with him every day. he works out in the field so maybe once a week. that's enough.

happy t-day keith.

mlhb

well, i put my first user in over 2 years of being here, on ignore. yes, back has won the big prize. i posted on another thread in comment to a poster and she literally attacked me in that post to that i was posting to someone else! my goodness i thought we were all adults here. it is nonsense like that keeps me from being a message board chat room type person. this is the only place i post because i thought we were safe from that here. i guess all of us here on this board who have chosen to divorce cheating spouses and to date afterwards are all sinners going straight to ******. thank you dr. harley for that ignore button <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

so... how was thanksgiving every one?? we are all full and tired here lol i went off of my very strict plan and lived it up today. i am sure i will be paying for it for days to come. i am going to do a juice/smoothie fast for the next 3 days to try and "detox" some of this out. i actually plan to start doing a 3 day fast once per month from this point on as i am reading more and more the benefits of small fasts on your health. so i'll be back in full swing tomorrow. it was nice, i had family in from out of town. got some nice well wishes from friends as well.

well, gotta go spend time with the family. see ya tomorrow.

who is braving the shopping tomorrow for black friday?? not me!

mlhb

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

i am not having a good day today. i feel such sadness today and i am not sure why?

i do know what part of it is...
as you all know a few months back i started a good job. now, don't get me wrong I AM VERY THANKFUL FOR THIS JOB as i am finally not struggling financially. but i feel everything comes with a cost and the cost is that now i don't get to spend as much time with my kids. i am home after 5 every single night and I HATE IT! i did not have kids for them to be raised by someone else. i miss picking them up from school and helping them with their homework. i miss us all cooking together to get ready for dinner. i hate the constant rush rush rush of my life. hurry up and get kids and get to hockey and come home and have my son wolf something down for dinner and showers and bed. i have NO TIME anymore and i hate it.

BUT, how much choice do i have? i don't have a dual income, i am it. yea, i get child support but we can't live on that obviously. i am all about contributing financially, even when there is a double income. HOWEVER, i would have more flexibility. what i really want to do is my jazzercise and be able to be home for my children. maybe just work at my business until they get home from school. i am not materialistic and don't have to live on millions. between working full time, school online to finish my bachelors, and everything else i feel like i am not there for my kids at all. AND I HATE IT.

yes, we have more money. but i miss having time with my kids. it is almost not worth it to me. i almost wish i was just subbing like i was before, and taking my classes and then i would have more time to be with my kids.

vent over... i guess if i know what i want, i just have to make a way to have it huh?

mlhb

yes, just like that old REO SPEEDWAGON song says "i know it hurts to say goodbye, but it's time for me to fly"

i know on one other occasion i was planning to leave the boards, but honestly that was more in a state of "tizziness" (i made that word up btw <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />) than in truly wanting to leave. i was frustrated and just wanted to say the heck with everything. but right now in my life i have to say i am at a point of peace and acceptance and am moving on to other things.

i have looked back over my posts of recent and it has just been more of a daily blog of what i am doing more than anything else. i see lots of people are reading it and i appreciate that, but really, it is just me sitting here at the computer posting something for the sake of posting when quite honestly i could and should be doing other things.

when i first came to MB, my marriage was pretty much already over. it was june of 05 and my now ex was involved in affair number, well, who knows. he had had several over the last few years and had been sleeping on the couch at that point for over 2 years. i found this site and did attempt a plan A. it was hard because really, there was not much life left in me. for a few weeks he did say he did notice the differences. he was supposedly in no contact with this ow (he was still getting texts from her and calls but "ignoring" them and he still was in the same company with her on the fire dept) he was not really trying, just trying to appease me because he didn't want to have to move and find a place, etc. he was pretty comfy. he told me he did notice the changes in me, but it was too little too late.

come july of 05 i just couldn't do it anymore. i found out at that point the extent of the affairs and i was devastated. no more i said. i threw him out in july. this board has seen me experience ups and downs since that time.

i made mistakes early on, i came here and cried and vented. when i was ready, i ventured over to this dating board and started posting here. as you all know i met gekko here and until last summer we were together. i don't regret any of that. i do still love him but do feel i am at a better place now of dealing with that situation.

i have a new life ahead of me and lots of plans. i am seriously pursuing my jazzercise and my raw food eating and teaching plans. i have lots of things coming up. all good. i plan to finish that bachelors degree as well. i do post on a raw food board and i feel that now, that is the direction my life is taking, and that is the board i am choosing to post on.

i have laughed and cried here. i have made friends and put one obnoxious poster on ignore! i thank you all for making a mark on my life.

please, those who want to, keep in touch with me. my email is:

mhugginsboyea@yahoo.com

or

mboyea2@yahoo.com

either one will work.

or, you can keep up with me here as well: http://joinmeintheraw.blog.homepagenow.com

surviving, newly, AB, Ashes, etc.. i expect all of you to keep in touch!

thank you all, but it is time for me to move on from here.
happy holidays and god be with each of you.

this is mlhb signing off.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />