Sounds good. I was getting worried.

I wouldn't hide his laptop. You got what you needed, and it will make him angry if you don't let him have it. I would make copies of any evidence you have and store those somewhere that hubby won't find.

Is your state a no fault state?

Yeah. I read up on divorce laws a few weeks ago so I would have the knowlege if necessary. That was before I decided to take action. Maybe part of me knew it was coming.

Thanks for your support, believer. And everyone else out there, too. I don't think I could have gone through with this without you guys rallying for me.

Now I'm waiting to see if he shows up. I kinda want to bake some cookies but I'm so tired and worn from the adrenaline finally dying down that I just wish I could go sleep right now. I'm not, though. I want to see if he has the guts to face me.

It's so funny, kinda...when I was on the road the a/c apparently wasn't working, I guess it went out. And the passenger side mirror on the outside came loose and is just hanging by a cord. It was almost like something was trying to stop me...I didn't stop. The mirror is still hanging and I rolled down the windows for air. We had a beautiful sunset today. Too bad H wasn't here to share it with me.

Charlotte,

Where in TX are you located? I am in Houston and can recommend a VERY good family law attorney.

Regards,

BB

Hi BB,

I am very close to Houston.

I am just south of PEARLAND on Hwy 6.

I would go ahead and make some cookies. It is always good to have your home be a warm and welcoming place. I think your husband is going to be too afraid to face you right now. We'll see.

Try to pamper yourself, and pat yourself on the back. You have done just fine.

That's funny, Melody...you are VERY close to H's AP and her H!

I think you're right on both counts, believer. And thanks for believing in me. I'll go ahead with the cookies since I took the butter out earlier. Hopefully I can finish before Law & Order-SVU...

Charlotte, I just got myself all caught up on your thread since I was in meetings and then the airport all day today. Great job!!

It will be important to keep up the pressure, call his FATHER, mother [?] and tell the kids. NOW. The kids should be told. Dr. Harley would tell you to tell the kids, because they can deal with the truth, they can't deal with lies. They have every right to know the truth about their dad. Kids are not protected by lies.

Another thing, whatever you do, don't tell your H what you are doing again. For example, he should not be told about your exposures in advance because that will give him and the PIG a chance to pre-empt you and spin the story. They will call folks up and tell them you are nuts. So, whatever you do, don't forewarn him again.

And lastly, can you download a keylogger [they are $99] on his laptop RIGHT NOW while you have the chance so that reports are emailed to you? You can do this quickly and I can help you if you will do it. That may you can monitor his activity on that computer and you won't lose that as a resource.

Also, you don't have to show him your evidence. He already knows he is in an affair so don't show your hand unless you have to.

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SSB.... and your point is? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

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what was that odd noise?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

....an SSB poppin'! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

So what am I missing here? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Was that a drive by post? Haven't seen one of those in a while. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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She's a troll who's been stalking Mel Orchid. Nothing to see here......

gloryb

WOW Justuss is quick these days.

Brit's Brat, I'll take you up on your offer. For all I know H is holed up somewhere with his AP and intends to see a lawyer instead of go on their trip.

Melody, done & done with the keylogger...

I guess H will wait until I'm not here tomorrow and skulk in to grab some stuff. I shouldn't try to call him or anything? I don't have any desire to call him at all right now. If he calls, I will not answer. He has to face me sooner or later.

I am holding up pretty good. I don't feel any sorrow at the moment so I don't feel like crying. I feel relieved that I went through with the exposure. Is this what it means to take back power? Is that why I feel this way? I took the power back? Is that it you wise MB'ers?

I may feel different if H does show up and starts trouble. I'm curious as to how I will react. I don't feel any anger right now. I hope he is okay. I do sort of wish he would leave me a message on VM so I know he's okay. I hope OWH is okay.

But anyway, is that why I feel this way? Am I going to crash and burn in the a.m. or will I feel this way for a while?

Charlotte, I am so proud of you for standing up for yourself and your marriage!! sniff... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />

i would just stand back and let him come to you. Don't let him see that you are worried or scared. If he calls, don't apologize, just ask him when he plans on ending his affair.

When BobPure exposed his wife's affair, he said he turned into a KNIGHT from a SERF. No longer did he feel scared. You just took the reigns back on your own life, Charlotte. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Oh, there will be ups and downs. You are doing a good job. But tomorrow you might feel bad again. That is why we call it the rollercoaster. Just trust that you are doing the best thing to save your marriage.

They may have gone on a trip together, or even moved in together. My ex and OW moved in together, and then he swore for 3 years that they weren't living together.

Look at him as a drug addict that will do whatever to get his fix. She sounds nasty though.

Be good to yourself and do things that will make you feel good. For most of us, our self-esteem was in the toilet for awhile.