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SeekingWife #1959656 11/01/07 12:47 PM
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That's what I'm hoping SeekingWife. Four or 5 more days sounds good to me right now.

And:

Yes I can, Princess Meggy!!!!

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Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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Update upon return!


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BS-42
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M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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I think he might be holed up somewhere with a tension headache due to his out of control actions yesterday. Can't count on it, but I'm betting that might very well be the case.

Imagine him telling his AP "Not now honey, I have a headache!"


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I imagine him sitting there alone in the dark saying... "what just happened?" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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Charlotte...Update please...It's been a long time since that appointment...I'm starting to get a bit worried...Let's us know how you are please...

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FWW ~ 47 ~ Me
FBH ~ 50 ~ MrWondering
DD ~ 17
Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered

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I know that pushy broad wouldn't like that, Bellevue.

Yep, princess meggy you are probably correct!

Well, I had to file in order to get things in place to stop H's bankrupting us. I didn't want to, but what choice do I have? It's his fault. NOT mine.

So I guess Plan A is out the window then? I guess it was a good thing I worked hard killing myself all these months.

My DIL called when I was in with the lawyer and I called her back after I got out. She said DS25 is absolutely furious with his dad for messing with our family. She is too. She said we have a GOOD family, he had no business screwing things up! AND she told me I had every right to be angry. I'm feeling it more now. They have motivated me.


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BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

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I got excited when my aunt came running in saying that 3 wrongful convictions have new evidence and someone else's DNA, one of the step-fathers. Also evidence from the mom implicating this step-father, her ex.

WM3 case...and on a LOCAL news station at that!

Sorry 'bout the O/T!

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Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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So I guess Plan A is out the window then? I guess it was a good thing I worked hard killing myself all these months.

That is good, Charlene, now you will be protected. You can stay in Plan A a while longer; filing divorce changes nothing.

I am glad you followed through on telling those kids and your FIL. Now you will have plenty of moral support from several quarters who will put pressure on his affair.

Where do you think he is?


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I wonder about that. My DIL said they'd call my BIL, to see if H was there, though. I have been scared to call BIL because I'm afraid H is over there. I did tell him I'd keep him updated, though.

Yeah, when DIL told me DS25 was so furious, I was like wow! Mom said she guessed he had to absorb it. Yeah, I didn't think about that. He was sleeping when I called but I know he heard everything. He must have thought about this the whole time he was at work last night!

I'm so excited about their reaction! After all, I am their step-mom, although we dropped the step long ago. But we used to have so much fun together, playing video games (sometimes all night marathon sessions of Mario Kart with my sis and her SO)...or we'd go riding around & I took them to the haunted bridge & scared the dickens out of them one night.

We always had a good relationship, even though when DS25 moved in with us it was a bit rocky at first. I'm glad they are mad at their dad. They are right. Shame on him for messing with our family!

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Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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Well, all's quiet on the western front - at least that is good. Another day or two and hubby will start getting over being so angry, hopefully.

He will need to be living SOMEWHERE, so something should break sooner or later. It will probably depend on whether OW leaves her husband.

Be sure to stay in Plan A and when you hear from hubby, let him know that you prefer a marriage with only two people, and hope you can work on that.

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But the tape is full in the machine so who knows what he said?

Was quiet...believer...

A few days from now he'll have to deal with another one of my vertebra re-activating when he is served.


Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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Charlotte, what does the tape say? Can you play it and tell us what he says?


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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"another one of my vertebra re-activating when he is served"

ha ha ha ha ha! God, you are funny!

And just look how much better you feel now that you are taking control of your life.

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Sorry Melody. The tape has been full for days. No H voice captured....:(


Charlotte22

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WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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Thanks Bellevue...one by one they come back online...but I am not Borg.

I am still Spock.

And if Spock could feel good...I surely do!


Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

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I went over to visit with DS & DIL & DGS5m...

DIL is getting more and more upset w/H. She said they went trick-or-treating last night & not long after they had left that DS called and said, "HOME. NOW." She said he was pacing back and forth and very agitated.

I guess he absorbed it a little faster than we thought!

She said he is trying to calm down before he calls H.

I got to see DS briefly when he got up to get ready for work but I had to go...pampering self tonight with L&O CI...

Too bad H isn't here. It's one of the shows we enjoy together, especially since we "don't have anything in common" (insert sarcasm)

Ha!


Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

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Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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Hey Charlotte,

I've got some more meetings today, but I'll check back in when I have some breaks...

Hope you're doing well...

Semper Fi,

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Me, BS

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Multiple A's that ended '90

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Hi RIF,

I'm doing real good so far. I didn't even cry when I knew I had to file for the big one in order to protect myself from H's reckless disregard for me and our family.

I teared up a little, that was all.

With each person I expose the evil, stinking, sickening, disgusting, filthy, nasty, vomit-inducing adultery to...I feel better and better. (vertebra coming back online...ACTIVATED!!)

And the reaction from DS21 & DS25 & DIL & FIL & BIL have really, really made me feel good.

Thanks to H's actions so completely destroying my self-esteem, it's not yet completely recovered. So I didn't know if they'd care much. Or maybe I was afraid they wouldn't care much. They have validated me and I feel SO much better!

I'd go "Dancin' in the Streets" but I think I might actually sleep a little better tonight. The last few days have been maybe 3 hours of sleep a night (and that's a kind estimate) and no napping. I do need to be up before the roosters (except our roosters who crow all night), so I can get to the bank before 7am. AAAaaaannnnnddd they're off!!!!

I'll probably be around a bit longer though.

Thanks again!!


Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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In your case, exposure has brought out allies and support. Just the sort of thing that will shrivel up the affair like testicles in icewater.

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