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Bellevue #1959676 11/01/07 10:42 PM
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When you talk to your husband, be sure you let him know that your desire is to save the marriage, and that you filed to protect yourself from the adultery.

Hey, there's no chance that he was arrested yesterday is there? He's being quieter than they usually do after exposure.

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Yaaaay! Rocky Mountain Oysters on the Rocks, Bellevue!

Love it!


Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
believer #1959678 11/01/07 10:58 PM
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believer,

I guess I should wait until after he is served?

He wasn't quiet yesterday!

He called here but the tape was full so no message recorded.

Should I send some cookies with the process server? I know he's probably Jonesing for them by now!


Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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Oh, that's good Charlotte. I'm just a worrier. Usually the WS will hund down the BS and scream and yell, going through the whole list. But then they get over it rather quickly. I mean REALLY quickly.

Your husband is getting a very SUDDEN wake up call. I guess time will tell what his next move is.

You haven't heard from OM yet, right?

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Nothing from OM.

But received VM from H. He just wants to p/u his laptop. (sigh...)


Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
Dancing_Machine #1959681 11/01/07 11:31 PM
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I would VM or text him back that he can pick it up anytime. Is it still in the house, or where you are staying?

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Pulled another 100 from ATM. Now 76 dollars left.

I guess the race to the bank really will be on. I'm sure he checked and saw the DD advance.

He hasn't learned a thing.


Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
believer #1959683 11/01/07 11:37 PM
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Yep. At the house. I am here tonight.

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Now I'm feeling a little down.

And the direct deposit hasn't shown up yet. It better just be late. Anger coming up now. Could he have put a stop to it that quickly?

I guess that means the little trip was definitely canceled, then. He would have had to do that from work.

So now he is punishing me. Fine. BRING IT ON, SAILOR!

I got your number. You just don't know it yet.

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Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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Where I work it takes some time to change a direct deposit. But I don't know if that is everywhere. Hmmmmm. Hopefully it will show up.

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Me too, believer. Maybe he thought it was there. I looked again and he pulled the 100 out after midnight because the date was 11/2.

I wonder if he'll log on and check activity. I don't think you get much of a summary with the ATM, do you? You can check balance & that's it? I don't use it often so I don't know what is different now.

For a while we weren't using the ATM option at all. It worked better that way to control spending. He uses that thing like it's free money.


Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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He must be living at work. The ATM he used was right close to the office. And on the VM the background sounded hollow, like when he calls me from there sometimes. Not sure which room it is. I guess it's not the fornication room.


Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
Dancing_Machine #1959688 11/02/07 12:11 AM
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No, an ATM at the same bank will give you are print out of the latest transactions.

Well, there is nothing you can do about it now. I would get some sleep for the exciting things that may happen tomorrow.

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Darn! I was afraid of that!

Yeah, I guess I'd better hit it pretty soon.

I'll stay a little longer, though.


Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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Still nothing. I'm gonna hit the sack now.

Goodnight, All!

Thanks again!


Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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Hey Charlotte,

I hope you're getting some rest... I just got back and wanted to check and see how you are doing.

I'm glad that Believer was around... she's a sweet-heart and can give you some great advice!

Semper Fi,

RIF


Me, BS

Her, Forgiven

Married Dec 86

Multiple A's that ended '90

Rebuilding In Faith since then...

Currently deployed to Iraq, but TEXAS is Home!
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Hi RIF,

I actually slept pretty good but 2 or 3 times I woke up laughing. (?) I have no idea what I was dreaming of if someone was telling me a joke in the dream or what.

Too bad H missed that, he always loved my little night noises. Except when I scared the heck out of him trying to scream in my sleep.

I woke up and thought I overslept by my clock was an hour ahead. I forgot.

DD finally went through. H pulled out more money, same location. Too bad I can't see time stamps.


Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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Did he leave you some money, Charlotte? Can you go get it out?


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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Morning Charlotte,

Is there anyway that you can go down to the bank and transfer the money to an account that he can't touch?

It's a shame that he's playing this little game with you...

Glad you got some rest last night.

Semper Fi,

RIF


Me, BS

Her, Forgiven

Married Dec 86

Multiple A's that ended '90

Rebuilding In Faith since then...

Currently deployed to Iraq, but TEXAS is Home!
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Hi you guys,

Yes. I need to go before 7am, though. I don't dare wait until the lobby opens.

This is starting to get really funny. I can just see H pulled up at the ATM, evil grin on his face as he "defiantly" pops the card in with a flourish.

"I'll show her!" he thinks.

This is not bothering me at all. It's only going to make him look like a fool in front of God and everybody. I'm sure the judge will love this.

He probably thinks I'm to chicken to do anything about it. Little does he know I already have. Boy, is he going to be surprised!


Charlotte22

BS-42
WH-Mr. Gray-52
M-15.5y
DS*DIL-26, DGS-1
DS*DIL-22
DD-21
Dday: 6/27/07 (Plan A-sort of)
10/30-BRAVE NEW WORLD! Exposure!
11/1-Filed D
11/21-Temp hearing, Shiny takes all
12/15-Plan B
5/13/08-Spousal support extended, my Shiny
Attorney totally ROCKS!!
7/17-Court again, Shiny rules!
7/22-OWH temp hearing, Shiny kicks butt again!
12/11-Mediation; Gray won't budge, we are now headed for trial

Shiny="A Dynamic Force of Epic Proportions"

Shiny WILL win!! No doubt, Sugah!
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