Thanks RIF!

Yes, geese are. My grandparents used to have some a few years ago...well, that was probably in the 80's when they had the geese. LOUD! And mean, too, just like the ducks the geese would come after you and try to take a bite out of your legs!

It hurts, too...those strong little bills can pinch HARD!

Okay, I read the whole hog of the evidence of the infidels. Apparently they were going to Atlanta. This may or may not be true but I remember her talking to H about buying the tickets to something, so it must have been plane tickets.

Why didn't they just rent a local hotel so they could rut for four days?

Oh, I guess rutting in a scenic locale is more fun. Even if you don't leave the room.

BTW: We're going to have to change the name of that ballet, Bellevue. Now it's going to be, "The Rutcracker Sheet-Dance of the Infidels"

Charlotte.....you are soooooo hilarious. I'm the resident movie maker (silent/invisible) over on the Idiotville fun thread and that's a great new title for me.

If ya need a vacation from all this drama, you're welcome to pop on over to the 20-90 Something Recovery Vacation thread. Anyone needing a 'time-out' is welcome to post there. RIF is our night watchman and we just shoot the non-A breeze all day (and night) long......makes for a great break and is good for a refreshing laugh now and then. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

A brief caution: Triggers are nasty and once they are ingrained, they are very difficult to overcome. I know you need to know what's possibly happening and reading all this stuff is part of your process.....but be careful in figuring out what you need to know and what you may NOT want to know. Some of the details may be best saved for later....or never, depending on your processing abilities. JMHO.

I saw how you were helping Mitzie with what you knew about and then sat back to watch how others helped her in other aspects. This is very wise and will also help in your personal recovery regardless how long it takes your WH to defog.

Keep it up....Oh......I did ask a question for you on the Enabling thread; when you get a chance, please check it out.

Thanks,
Ace

Thank you!

I definitely need to go check that thread out.

Thank you for your encouragement for when I tried to help Mitzie. As you mentioned, I did not want to overstep so I help her when I could.

I remember all too well needing answers "like...yesterday!" when I had questions. Since it was late and there weren't many to help her I had to do what I could.

I'll go check the Enabling thread out soon.

Have a great day!

"The Rutcracker" - ha ha! Coming this Christmas.

Charlotte, you bring brightness to our board. Already you are giving back; you're a quick study.

I regret I didn't have the guts to expose when it could have done some good. Following your progress lately has been so good for me.

It's like we're on the bell curve - me at one end with the timid ones who couldn't get past their shame at being cheated on. You and many others who risked the embarrassment and followed the Plans, some before they even knew about the Harleys.

I figure I have a role, a warning role, real life example of what to expect from hiding from shame of what your cheating spouse is doing. "the ghost of christmas future".

I look forward to opening night of the Rutcracker near me.

About mitzie - you didn't want to overstep. You are cautious yet compassionate. How refreshing, in contrast to trolls with their own agenda. You are among the posters who give back. I also try, as mentioned above.

Sometimes I just pull away when a poster is suffering so much through their own timidity. It hits too close to home. I'd rather witness and support bravery, even if the poster fails, they know they gave it everything. You're doing the right thing for your marriage.

You get front row seats!

Thank you for all of your kind words and encouagement. They are a soothing balm to me. I am a little upset right now because I just finished talking to H's XW. I am changing the locks today. I need to anyway because the door is in such sad shape, but now I feel I need to protect myself even more until the TRO is in place. More on convo w/XW later.

I'm still absorbing and filing things away...(remember Jonesy's warehouse in Dreamcatcher? Boy this is growing into one doozy of a file! I can't let Mr. Gray in, he might find it.)

I can't even call HR again right now. I'm going to have to wait until after lunch.

My husband is SO messed up! I really hope that this reality check will help him turn things around. I'm still committed to saving our marriage but even if we don't make it I want him to be as healthy as possible.

I know I will be.

What did H's XW tell you that has gotten you so upset? Did you call her or did she call you?

Jonesy's Warehouse - I'll have to dig Dreamcatcher up again.

Just love Stephen King. Found Dolores Claiborn in storage locker. I hope to empty that thing out by participating in Freecycle. A mom nearby requested old videos - so I retrieved them from Bellevue's Warehouse. I don't like paying so much for space for my junk. I hope to pass these on to that young mother soon.

Dolores Claiborne was in the box with the vids.

i fprgpt what was dolores claiborn about I think i saw it but my brain is mush right now.....

hello mushbrain, here's a synopsis:

Abused mother of 3 offs her husband with the help of a lunar eclipse after learning that he has stolen her life's savings and molested their daughter.

As usual, with Stephen King's stories, lots of supernatural mystery and scarey moments.

Being somewhat mushbrained myself, I re-read these books after putting them away for a year or more. It's like having a whole new book!

ohhhh yeah....I remember now didn't she off him by well or something?

I have never read a stephen king novel because....well I am a big fat fraidy cat! I know Kathy Bates is in the movie. She is my favorite actress. I would entertain seeing the movie just because of her (as long as I can cover my eyes at the scary parts.) I did see misery (where she is obsessed with her favorite author) The scene where she breaks his legs still plays in my mind! She is such a good actress. My favorite KB movie is fried green tomatoes, now that is more my speed.

suamico, there are 2 Kings I cannot read:

Cujo - I can't bear to read this or watch the movie. I have a son.

Misery - I refuse to watch this movie.

Other than that, I'm addicted to King.

how do you think the new king movie "the mist" is going to do?

Oh suamico! You NEED to read the novel. And Misery also.

They left SO much out of the movie that they shouldn't have. They could have gotten the stuff in that I feel was crucial to the story.

Dolores & her employer Vera had some similarities that were never addressed in the movie. I don't want to reveal to much but I was pretty po'ed when they weren't in the movie.

Read it as soon as you can!

I'll be in with a report soon re: H's XW. Since I posted on this thread last, I have spoken to HR to follow up on last weeks letter and they will have an envelope of evidence about 1" thick that will show up at the corporate office tomorrow.

More to follow later...(details at 11 <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />)

What was that? Oh yes my SKIN CRAWLING! Isn't that one about some evil dog? I am telling you I am a fraidy cat, I have not seen most horror movies because of nightmares!

Ummmm.... oh no I don't! Things "stick" in my head and give me nightmares. I have to "watch" what I watch and read. I can't even watch saving private Ryan because of the gore. For pete sake one of my favorite moves is jagged edge and I STILL jump when he knocks out the glass in the door.

I'm with you suamico-I have to be careful about what I watch or read because I dream it later. But I love suspense.

Charlotee22-the first Stephen King I read was "The Shining" It was the scariest book I'd ever read. I had no idea about King's writing at the time so I figured I'd find out what all the fuss was over his books. I did read a few more, but I had to quit after "It". I can handle his short stories most of the time but "Boogie Man" made me close my closet doors every night.

One of his books, The Danse Macabre, is really different. It's kind of his history of horror as a genre of fiction. His sense of humor is great.

I agree johnstwin, he does have a great since of humor.

Dolores Claiborne is really tame compared to the Shining, 'Salem's Lot, and others. (IT!!)

Have you guys read Rita Hayworth & the Shawshank Redemption? The Green Mile? The Body?>> (which was made into the movie Stand By Me)...Eyes of the Dragon? Blaze? (best Bachman book ever!!)

Rose Madder! There ya' go! Vive ze bool!!!

BTW-the eclipse in Dolores Claiborne was connected to an event which occurred in Gerald's Game. They didn't cover that in the movie.

You'd love Gerald's Game. Try to sleep after that one! Actually getting to sleep isn't bad, it's waking up and looking in corners and THEN not being able to go back to sleep. Thanks to the Space Cowboy. I don't read G.G. very often.