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My WS and I had a mojor arguement last night and all three kids heard some details of her and OM. How much should kids hear. Do I tell them the truth about everything she has been doing?
Our son is 12 and acting out towards her. He is really hurt and remembers the day she met OM at Boy Scout camp.
I am trying to keep things calm but WS has lied to me about certain things about the affair.
Thanks in avance for the replies!!!
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Joined: Apr 2001
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The kids need to know about the affair - FROM YOU. Kids can handle the truth, they can't handle LIES. And yes, your children will very much resent being exposed to her affair partner. If not today, then when they grow up.
It is also important to give them MORAL GUIDANCE about the affair.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Joined: Oct 2007
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We decided to tell our 2 college age children also for the support of their sibling still living at home with us. We thought that part of the healing process could be with each other. They are all very close. But, WE went to their apartment (they live together and go to the same school)and my WH told them. I'll never forget the pain on their faces when he bravely told them what had been going on. Of course, it was my idea. I didn't want them to find out later or from someone else and risk them being more angry. I didn't say a word...he spoke the entire time. That was probably one sign I took that possibly the A was definately over.
I do believe in karma
Me 43
WH 45
Married 22yrs
D day 09/30/07
Children: all DDs, 20, 19 and 16
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