Hi All,<BR>A short update.........he did not pack. He profoundly apoligized for the first time. He said he was so sorry for all the hurt he had inflicted. Am I suspicious.......bet your bootie! I am afeared he dont want to lose his spot here! LOL !! But.........and heres the rub.......I DON'T CARE! If he lets me be me I will let him be him........if not, well that old song, "Counting flowers on the wall." at his house. Thisns mine! I really don't care if I'm his best friend anymore. I can take care of me. Living by my ownself is looking better every fight. I've been alone and I like me. I would be fine.......I don't think he feels he would be fine. After work when I was ready to help him pack.........he said, "I can't imagine my life without you." <BR>I said, "You don't have to imagine....you are going to do it." <BR>He said, "I will fix it, please give me another chance." <BR>It's only a few days and we all know how great promises are that are made under stress. But I still know how to pack. Thank you so much for staying with me. Sorry Sheba......you are a rock. Hugs honey.........you are a good friend.<BR>Love, Karen<BR><P>------------------<BR>alleyoop<BR>

Hi Alleyoop -<P>You had me going....but I knew you'd be back when you could!!<P>Scared the beejeebees out of him - did ya? That's OK....some people need that every once in a while.<P>What is this stemming from...what did he do or not do?<P>Remember, the key to a different kind of life with each other is to get rid of the old "cause and reaction" routines of communication we used to have and approach things differently!!!<P>Big Hugs and I'm always here,<P>Sheba

Hi Sheba,<BR>I DID give up. I had spent about a month being "Susie homaker" or a "Stepford wife". I was so sweet I made myself sick. I didn't do anything to "upset" him. Reading poor Cristalles post is like reading one of my own. Well what happened to "upset" him was he told me he was comfortable when I was like I had been. He had not done one more thing while I was pretending to be happy than he did when I was honest. So when he said he was comfortable I said, "But do you love me?"<BR>He said, "I think I do." That was it Sheba, I was a puddle. And when I cry he is angry. Well it escalated from there with him shutting me out and ignorring me. I replied on Cristalles post this evening. I will not play anymore. If he wants to be in my house he will love me and show me. If not I will help him pack. It's been too long and I'm losing my heart for him. I don't want to hate him. If he leaves soon enough or sincerely tries to fix it maybe I can survive. I just know I can't do the hate. I'd rather be empty. Thankyou for being patient and caring. Hugs.......<BR>Love, Karen<P>------------------<BR>alleyoop<BR>

Hi Karen -<P>I don't remember (brain is quite fried these days) but why did you start pretending to be happy?<P>I thought you were at a point of just plain being "YOU" and not acting or feeling according to his words or actions.......<P>The Suzy Homemaker gig.....what's that about? Didn't you two start taking the time with each other after the "mechanic/tire" point of view explanation you had given him a while back and then he supposedly got it!!<P>Where'd all that go? Does he need to be reminded to check out WHY the tire is leaking air again?<P>HUGS,<P>Sheba