Some women do, some don't.

Most men LOVE National BJ week.

If you have no objection to providing this type of SF (and you don't seem to) you should do it.

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Dear all, I've downloaded the keylogger and it's inside the pc now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Actually I have also taken advice from some of your and did talk about this to him. I brought up the topic casually and keeping my cool, without sound hysterical (even though deep down I was burning). Well, could see from his reaction that he was telling me the truth about some email he received from his male contacts.

Told him that I felt insulted if he would rather see naked girls vs me. And he felt apologetic. Told me that he wouldn't.

We talked further and he revealed that he has such spam emails sent to his company emails. All of his colleagues got them too. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I'm so glad that he was honest to me and told me things that I didn't even ask for. Heaved a great sigh of relief!

Well, I certainly hope the keylogger will prove to me that he kept to his word and I certainly don't want our relationship to be ruined due to such bad influence he gets outside. It's so gross when I think about it. Those male contacts who sent him such emails are all married. And some of them are having flings/ affairs outside.

Thanks you all!!!
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and what are you doing to meet his EN for SF?

Excuse me for the interruption here...his friends/colleagues are having affairs? And what are you and your H doing about this? have you informed the wives and exposed them for the lying cheaters that they are...or are you sitting silently by thankful that it isn't happening to you?

If you are not willing to take a stand against adultery in all of it forms...if you are not willing to expose every single affair that you are aware of to help protect an innocent...then, you are part of the problem. You have a husband that is close enough to these people that they are sending personal emails...yet neither one of you is standing up for the BS??? shame on both of you.
Let me ask...are you the type that would just stand by and watch someone beating a child and do nothing...unless it was your own child? If not....why are you doing that with infidelity???

May be too late, but I recommend:

http://www.spyarsenal.com/familykeylogger/

Any key logger is worth the investment!

I also use another program that blocks porn, myspace, and similar trash.

Something is up but it sounds like you have time to get back on track.

Good luck,

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Hi mk, sorry if I made this feel like it wasn't my problem. Actually, those male contacts that H has are all his army contacts (those whom he sees once a year - few days, maybe). He doesn't even talk or call them every other day, let alone go out. He had recently gone for his army obligations (1 month back) and his email is in their mailing list. That's why the mass-emails reached him in his personal email account. If I knew that his close buddies are doing that to their wives, you bet I'll do anything to expose it. *Hope I could clear the air around here* As for his colleagues thing, the whole company is receiving spam emails from I-don't-know where. He checked with his colleagues and found that he's not the only one receiving emails like that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> No known affairs that he knows of.

We talked about his SF and he told me he has a bigger sexual appetite than I expected. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> We discussed and compromised so that we could fulfill both our SF needs. We will be spending more time alone too - recreationally and made plans this weekend. Am so looking forward to it. It must have been ages since we had time alone like that.
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LOL!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for the laugh! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

It is great that you caught the slide in your marriage before it went too far. KEEP TALKING! DH and I have 4 kids and have been married for over 16 years. I think I remember WAY back when we were married just 6 years. At that time we had a 3 year old a 14 month old, a newborn AND got temp custody of his 15 year old nephew. It is a lot! When we look back on it we still can't remember/explain how we did it. There were periods where the sex slacked off but we made sure we did "something" 2-3 times a week. We knew we needed the connection. One thing my DH loves is when I pull him into another room for a quickie. It usually is pretty quick because of all the excitement and surprise. Now we have more time together because our kids are now 14,12,11 and 5. We also plan a family fun night a few days a month. We either do board games or pull out the sleep sofa, blankets, pillows and treats and watch a family movie. Sometimes DH and I snuggle (very important!) and sometimes our 5 year old takes "her spot" between us. Either way atleast our feet are touching!

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Hi all,

Thanks for reading. It's kinda long, but I would need your advice (got 3 qns there, pls advise)

We had a great time yesterday (both of us had a day off, went to see our son's performance before having the entire afternoon to ourselves - went for a nice lunch, shopping, cycling through the park). It was great.
He even kept his computer logging time to the minimal (for the past few days after my confrontation with him about the porn thing), to less than half an hour, while waiting for me to put the kids to sleep and turning it off when I'm ready to be with him.
I've talked to him about Dr Harley's theory and marriage builders that I'm visiting. He expressed interest and told me we have to work hard in this marriage to keep it going. At times, I would check his phone messages (in front of him). He would let me do it, but, I really don't think it's nice to pry into every single message. He would also tell me his daily schedule and projects he handles at work and we would meet for lunch everyday.

BUT...

I don't know I'm crazy or what. I'm still insecured! Everytime I notice him switching on the PC, I almost felt like running there to make sure he's not surfing those sites or anywhere. I haven't told him anything about the keylogger, and haven't gone into the computer to check it (as I really have no time to do that - you see we come home and leave for work together).

Q1) I don't know if I should actually look into his phone messages and phonecalls in front of him or should I snoop, but I just figured that it would be a soft-hint to tell him that I have my 'eyes on him'? Advice plz...

Q2) I don't know if I should stop telling him about MB theories and those WS cases, so that I can let him be 'off his guard' OR should I continuingly tell him so that he'll know his boundaries?

Q3) What should I do now? I'm feeling insecured and sad about that porno-surfing incident (I think it's over, at least for now). But I don't want him to know that I'm upset and all (that might be a love-buster too, you know)

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