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Hi. Im new to the forum, not sure if this is the right place to post this!
I was married for 8 years together for 10 and have a 7yr old daughter. 6 years ago my h decided he wasnt in love with anymore and left, I waited 6 months and he came back, was totally heartbroken, well he did it to me again 4 months ago, and I told him if he left, I couldnt have him back again and risk him breaking my heart for a 3rd time. I love him to bits and the pain is unbearable, yes I have more good days now than bad, but it always seems one step forward 10 back and then try and pick myself up again. I cannot have no contact as he sees our daughter, and it hurts so much when I see him and talk to him.
He wants us to be best friends, we always got on well, never argued and there is no one else involved. He just isnt in love with me so wouldnt stay. I have not begged or pleaded this time. I have got to accept its over, but its so hard, I miss him and love him so much.
What can I do to help get over him, just want this pain to stop!!!!
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Hearbroken, I so feel your heartbreak. I am now separated from my husband who says he loves me but is not "in love" with me. While I still love him, I know he is bad for me. But I still can't stop hoping.
Mornings are the worst time of the day for me because I'm all by myself. It gets better when I start getting busy; it keeps my mind off of things. Try not to be alone, rely on your friends, your family, your faith. My faith is really getting me through this. Sometimes I feel I can't get through the next hour.
The pain is oh so unbearable, and you feel like you just want to rip your heart out. Oh, I know the pain. I don't know how long the pain will be there, but it sucks big time.
Stay strong, and don't beg and plead. That's what I did our first two separations, and I was miserable during our supposed reconciliations because he wasn't fully committed. Now this is our third separation (which he initiated), and I am definitely not going to capitulate and beg for him back. So you stay strong, girl!
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me BS 37
WH 36
DS 5
Newborn 11 mos
Married 11+ years
WH EA/PA(??) with co-worker 5/05 -- present???
Found evidence of PA with OW on 6/23/06 however WH denies everything
D-day: 1/11/06 (less than two weeks after 10th anniversary)
Reconciled 2/12/06 but WH still works closely with OW
WH left 6/5/06 (broke up via phone)
Reconciled again 7/7/06 and working on our marriage.
Separated once again 10/9/07 (OW still working with WH)
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