I have found that after seeing the ugly effects of adultery up close and personal, my own entertainment choices have changed. While I never went looking for adulterous stories intentionally, if they were in a movie or sitcom or book I just "let them slide" so to speak.
I can no longer watch a "comedy" such as "Friends", nor watch daytime soaps, or rent movies, in which extramarital sex is either laughed at or made out to be "true luuuuvvvv". I either get up and walk out of the theater or turn the TV off or maybe burn a book. Once it has touched the lives of so many of my friends and family, adultery can never again be something to laugh at or overlook. Hollywood will not get a dollar from me, if I can help it, to further the desensitizing of people to this sin.
Have you found this to be true in your situation? Are movies or shows, or even music, "triggers" for you, and what do you do to protest it?

setfree, to my horror, I have to admit that I was once so dense that I viewed Bridges of Madison County as a sweet, romantic story! It is about as "romantic" as 2 pigs rutting in the pig pen. OINK! Meryl Streep and Robert Redford were nothing more than filthy PIGS in that movie. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

My entertainment choices have changed dramatically because the old LEFT BRAIN was awakened to the truth of what I was really seeing. And it wasn't pretty! ugh!

Setfree,

Glad you brought this up. It was ridiculed by some the last time I recall it being mentioned:


Setfree....do ya wanna take on the Hollywood 'Giant'? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Ace

I am also in agreement, I don't laugh at it either, I have also noticed that my H gets rather uncomfortable, I have to admit that I don't mind that.
I will try sometimes to avoid it because I know the true pain and don't need a reminder when I have decided I need some rest infront of the TV and then there are times when I want to see a paticular movie or show knowing it was in there, it just depends on my mood at the time.

And I am so sick of the Brad Pitt/Angelina Jolie media circus I could puke. I don't care if they adopt a hundred needy babies from overseas, they broke up a marriage to be together. They are immoral to the point of flaunting it, rendering them unfit parents as far as I am concerned.

Setfree,
You and me both. After my dday, I've often thought of Jennifer Aniston and her hurt. Not only did she have to endure the tragedy of an A, she had to watch it on TV and read about it everyday. How degrading.

Also, I've often thought of the spouse of the guy who married Julia Roberts. That had to be hard for her. Most of us get a little satisfaction because our waywards affaired down on the food chain. How would you deal with your H leaving you for Julia Roberts? We all know that will never last long term, but that would be a tough one to get over.

I too used to watch those shows and think nothing of it. Until it happened to me. And a few days ago I was watching an episode of L&O SVU and I couldn't watch the episode. I had to change the channel. It just sickened me.

And when I see sports celebrities flaunting their affairs and commercials that make fun of infidelity it makes my stomach churn. The pain is unbearable.

I won't be watching Lifetime, Oxygen or WE channels much anymore.

LA:

I haven't seen much on those channels that I like either.

I did see a movie recently, and although it didn't glamorize As, it was pretty tough at times to watch, the Painted Veil.

It is a good movie if you can make it through. They should make all WS see it!

Infidelity on screen was a huge issue for me post d-day.

Now, over 2 years out, I must say it doesn't trigger me that much anymore.

Heck you'd be hard pressed to find ANYTHING to watch otherwise.

It bothered me too at first, but now I just want to shout at the screen, you idiots!, that's not LOVE, it's LUST. Grow up!! Can't you see what you doing?!?! (even though it's just a script). My DH absolutely feels uncomfortable when there's an A in the script. Sometimes it makes me sad though if the script imitates what happened to us too closely.

He watched "She Devil" with me about a year or so after he came home. Talk about squirming! We did end up laughing together though. I've told him since (kidding around), you try that again buster watch out, I'm educated now and you don't even want to go there. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

The Painted Veil is a great movie IMO. A somewhat sad ending though (I won't spoil it for anyone who hasn't seen it yet by going into detail).

Shows with As, particularly those that glamorize it, still affect me. My FWW understands, and usually draws in a little closer, or holds me when any A-stuff happens.

Right after DDay, it actually may have been within hours, I saw this commercial for chewing gum where a FS walked in her WH's office where he was with the OW. They were mudslinging, and then claimed fresh breath after a "dirty mouth" and all parties were smiling. I cannot begin to tell you how offended I was by this commercial, taking an affair so lightly as to sell a product. Is this what our media has come to?

Lyrics, books, movies.....practically any form of media type entertainment contains and glorifies the A. Why? Because that is what the public is willing to spend their mighty $$ on.

It is often hard for the BS or anyone else to avoid it and the BS are especially sensitive to it.

So how to live..as a hermit? For many that's a no can do.

So what t/d? For some, we have learned how to control what we hear, read and watch. Not always easy to do but learn and move forward.

Even the news gets to be a trigger at times. Then again for others it could be landmarks, hotel chains, or even the mustache on the Xws' face. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />.

Triggers..... learn how to deal with them.

L.

It is just these reasons why I have stopped talking to some of my friends regarding my situation because to them marriage is disposable. It's no big deal. You can go out and find somebody else. Or go out and have a revenge affair. Get even with him. I was brought up with different values. And I live in LA. I've turned down auditions because of nudity and the character is just not the kind of character I'd like to play.

in movies when there is an A it sends a message of romance, it really glorifies it, every movie I have ever seen with someone having an A the audience is rooting for the couple thats having the secret A.
Another couple that really bothers me is Garth Brooks, he was having an A with Trisha Yearwood before the two became "stars", Brooks and his wife had no kids at the time, they split for a bit, got back together, had 3 kids then in the end Brooks runs off with Yearwood, poor kids.

The movie "Unfaithful" with Diane Lane & Richard Gere. I watched it years ago when it first came out on DVD and I found it disturbing then & now I'd probably hurl if I had to see even one scene of it. I didn't find it sexy only sad and pathetic. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

And the TV show Grey's Anatomy. Is everybody having an affair on that show? I stopped watching. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

I think I'm just gonna stick with Heroes and Prison Break. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I know after I watched the movie "Closer" I had to get rid of the movie. I gave it away. It was so realistic of the fallout of A's that I just couldn't bear to watch it after d-day & even to this day. And I consider myself recovered. Unfortunately, I don't think we're ever going to get away from it completely whether in the media or anywhere else around us. It's here to stay. People's morals just have gone out the window in this day & age. Staying away from any movies, songs, books about infidelity is impossible. I've found that there will always be some type of infidelity involved in any of these types of venues. So I found my favorite type of infidelity songs. They're the ones that talk about revenge on the OP or WS. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Songs like, "Fist City" & "You Ain't Woman Enough to Take My Man" by Loretta Lynn, "Lying Eyes" by Eagles, & "Before He Cheats" by Carrie Underwood.

If you think the American media is bad, take a look at the media outlets to the south. Telenovellas, which are huge in Latin America, glorify adultory with enormous romance. People fall in and out of bed without really a care except as dramatic fodder. One of the major Saturday night TV shows, Sabado Gigante, has a long-running part of the show where cheating husbands are asked to be forgiven by their wives. It is all treated like a big joke.

Very sad.

Remember this one?

"Same Time Next Year"

starring Ellen Burstyn, and Alan Alda ????

Talk about glorifying an affair!

dont forget the kitchen show!

yes, I saw that movie after my first marriage ended because of XW third PA.

It made me sick.

Dont watch that trash.