WH left last Tues after I caught him talking to OW again. He actually told me in front of her that he wanted her more. Then he left and said he was going to a hotel, which in fact he stayed with her for 2 nights and even put some clothes at her house. Then I did not speak with him for 2 days and he came by our house and told me he had been thinking and he saw that I had changed and he felt bad because he never gave us a real chance when he came back home the 1st time. Then he met with me and OW on Sat. to tell us he wanted some time to think and he was moving in with his grandparents. Said he can't imagine life without either of us. Said he realized since he left that he loved me more than he thought he did.

But since this I have found that he has two OW that he keeps in contact with that send him obsence texts and have lunch with him and when d-day came down he met with one of them for lunch and probably much more. He even slept with this girl in Jan. while he was having affair with the OW now. It seems like he needs to have some woman always giving him attention and I just don't see any hope for this marriage. Do any of you think this time spent away from our home and me will snap him into reality or should I just give up all hope for this marriage. We are 29 & 31 with no kids, married 5 1/2 years, dated 6 years before that. Please advise, everyone tells me to get out and see a lawyer immediately.

I would also advise you get out, especially if you ever want to have kids. It would be a crime to drag innocent children into such a horrific, unstable mess with a father who is the epitomy of self will run riot.

The fact is that you can't change a serial cheater, lb. He CAN change if he is totally committed to doing so and to making dramatic lifestyle changes. But absent that, there is nothing you can do.

If I were you, I would go into Plan B NOW to remove yourself from his abuse. There is no point to Plan A since he will only use it to exploit and abuse you further. Going into a dark Plan B will make you unavailable for further abuse and will enable you to think more clearly and make rational decisions.

I understand that you hate to throw away nearly 12 years of your life. On the other hand, how about throwing away the rest of your life? Relying on your WH to be a human being and bond with you isn't reality. He never has and he never will. Bail; get out before you have to endure even more pain.

Larry

This one is easy........he is a serial cheater, you two dont have kids...............RUN!!!

I totally agree with the above posts.

BTW, when a Plan B is done properly, it works 100% of the time.

Guaranteed.

I also agree with the above posts--- RUN RUN RUN!

I'm married to a serial cheater and the enormous differance between my situation and yours is the involvement of two children (now three) and a TRULY repentant husband who did absolutely everything to restore his home. Every day is a challange,however, as the betrayed spouse and I would absolutely NOT recommend this for women who have no children.

Please cut him loose and give yourself true freedom.

After really thinking about it, he has disrespected me for our entire relationship. We have no kids and I am 29 years old with a good job. I'm contacting an attorney this week. Thanks for all your advice!

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LB,

You're young. He's stupid.

Run.

Fast.

The other direction.

Leave him in the dust, because he does not want to be married. Grant his wish.
In the long run, you will thank yourself, and he will probably learn.................nothing.

SB