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Under plan A, there's a moment of decision when the cheating spouse begins to emerge from the fog of the affair. Plan A is working. The cheating spouse decides to recommit to the marraige. Clearly, this is a decisive and delicate moment.
Can any general comments be made about the emotional state of the cheating spouse which their faithful spouse should take into account as they move forward?
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IMVHO. The hardest one to take are sad and depressed from leaving OP. Don't take it personaly, put in NC asap and Plan A harder ... get MB conseling.
redhat
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Happily Married to Lady Elina - 04/29/06
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Plan A and NC are in effect. We are working with Dr. Jennifer Harley.
My question stems from the fact that my wife's behavior has changed. For the first time in about six months, she has told me she loves me. She is now committed to rebuilding the marriage. She has emerged from the fog. This seemed to be a very important change.
We have an appointment with Dr. Harley next week. I just wondered if anyone had thoughts on this particular moment in the reconciliation process.
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Why not ask it during the session ?.
Yes, it is very pivotal moment when the light burn off the fog and hope it stays this way. Look at her behaviors closely it should improving and willingly on fillin your ENs and avoiding her LB's to you.
redhat
Give your absolute best such that you could look back 10 years from now w/ no regret.
Happily Married to Lady Elina - 04/29/06
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