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My EX cheated on me twice that I know of........the 2nd time was enough. I remember what happened the 1st time.....approx. 10yrs prior and I couldnt go thru that again. I also didnt want to reconcile and go thru it again another 5, 10yrs later.
How about yall? This question goes out to those going thru adultery and those who are divorced. Where do you draw the line......or do you? I know to some love is unconditional. Just curious.
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You know, I think once would be enough for me. At least, knowing what I know now, I hope so. And we don't have children together so I can't imagine wanting to continue if he cheats. It'd break my heart in two, I do know that.
But I just can't say for sure. It might depend on how he handles it. It's the lies that almost killed me with the last one.
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I know to some love is unconditional. Who sold you that fairy tale?????
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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I know to some love is unconditional. Who sold you that fairy tale????? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Only where children and pets are concerned. And some times I'm not so sure about the children part. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> JUST KIDDING. LOL
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Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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once is all I can handle I am not takin this one so well. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
BS(ME)41
WH (HIM)44
Married 1990
one ds
one dd
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My H only got ONE second chance. If it happened again, I would take a pass. And I don't think that folks really have "unconditional love" in these cases, but unconditional acceptance. Unconditional love in marriage seems to be reserved for enablers who are seeking excuses to tolerate abuse.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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