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PLEASE give me your thoughts - The Other Woman is the Mother of His Child
#1963442 10/31/07 04:31 PM
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I want my marriage back, but not the infidelity. My husband has been having sexual relations with the mother of his 2 yr old (they never married) on a regular basis since we moved in together in Jan. and were married in April until we separated in Sept. He swears he doesn't love her, doesn't know why he did it - she pursued him unmercifully - I know from the cell phone calls and text she sent (38 in one day). How will I ever know they aren't still having relations if I take him back? She has to be in our life for at least 16 more years! I know he loves me and I love him so, any good advice to save my marriage and rid it of her?

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Re: PLEASE give me your thoughts - The Other Woman is the Mother of His Child
maj68 #1963443 11/01/07 09:33 AM
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Was your husband with the mother of the child when you met? If my math is right the two of you moved in together when the child was barely a year old.

How long did you know your husband before you moved in with him?

Trying to get by.
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My husband did not live with the mother of the child, they occasionally had relations, but she pursued him everywhere he went, including into our marriage. I knew him for 14 years, we were together off and on during that time since he lived in another town.
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Hmmmm..........it sounds like he was on/off again with both of you all. Your husband sounds like a cake eater to me.

Why are you putting all the blame on OW? Your H needs some boundaries himself. He is married and does NOT have to acknowledge the mother of his child except when its about his child.
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You might not like hearing this, but here goes: You have only been married a few months, and he's been cheating on you the whole time. You don't have any children together. Cut your losses. Otherwise you're in for a lifetime of exactly what you've got right now.

Trying to get by.

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