Amazing how just about anything can trigger or relate back to a past affair. I was just hanging out with some dads of my sons football team and they started talking about relationships, what would you do if your wife cheated, etc. Very uncomfortable already but then the question was asked about "Would you let a man sleep with your wife for a million dollars"?

Of course this was an old movie and I had considered the question in the past. Now I have a different perspective.

Before, I felt there was no way, no amount of money in the world that was worth a man having his way with my wife. Just the thought of it was crazy.

Now.. Let's just say - If it were not for my religious beliefs and going against my own set of morals and values. I would take the million. I mean, she let this man have his way for FREE. In fact, it costed her tons of money because of the counseling, medical bills, loss of income, etc that occurred afterwards.

What does this mean? Anything? Just the way it is after an affair. I guess she is not as valuable anymore. This was just a quick thought but yes, it did make me sad.

HF

The way I see it, it would be different if you CHOSE.

Hi,
I know that movi too and when I saw it, it wasn't even a thought for me and our marriage.

Hasn't changed for "me" but if any gal offered me that for my husband............ <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> he did it for free his affair .....so why not earn a few $$$$$.?

His affair sadly tainted the specialness of this in our marriage........and I just don't believe that "the act" would really be worth it.......and if any gal would be stupid enough to pay a million, I'd say yes, now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

bb

There's an old story (probably mostly fiction) about Sir Winston Churchill.

It goes that he was drunk at a party one night (seems many stories about Churchill involve him being drunk) and he asked a woman, "Madam, would you sleep with me for 1 million pounds sterling?"

Blushing, but interested, the woman said, "For 1 million pounds I would, sir."

He then asked, "Madam, would you sleep with me for 10 pounds?"

Appalled, the woman replied, "Sir! What kind of woman do you take me for?"

He responded, "We've already established that fact, now we just need to settle on a price."

-----------------

I've also considered the scenario in "Indecent Proposal". When it was first released, our marriage hadn't been touched by infidelity (of which I'm aware) and I, like most, thought there was NO MONEY in the world enough to make violating my marriage worth it.

Now, after her affairs, I still feel that way. No money in the world worth it.

If someone were to offer us that kind of money to sleep with her and she wanted to accept, I'd tell her to get it in cash so she can set up her new life elsewhere without me.

Just my $.02

Blessings

lol Artor! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Yeah, that movie doesn't seem to funny now. Not that it was then, but it really isn't now. Not even sure that I could watch it again.

While, I would not take the money, I agree that the specialness is gone from the marriage. And unfortuantely, no amount of recovery can get it back. My H's worth is forever tarnished and it is very heartbreaking.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> lol

you did get me thinking when I read this..........on d-d, my husband phoned xOW and I ended up talking with her too.....she told me: I was willing to give up everything for your husband........... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

I should of asked her: Lets make a deal.....would you prefer to rent him, lease him or are you thinking of buying him?? The price varies depending what you choose......... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
But keep in mind OW: he is used, a lyer, a betrayer and he has children, he hates doing housework so that's for you, wants his meals served regularely, is fussy about food, farts and snores alot, forgets to shower and brush is teeth at times, you'll have to take care of all business related things, pick up his clothes wherever they fall and you'll also have to deal with his teenage children.....and his mother also because she comes and goes whenever she feels like it.He also hates cats, so you better get rid of your 13 cats or he'll killem.

Oh and one more thing.....once you've done all your chores, he wants you to look your best and he wants you to be available and enthusiastic............ <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
bb

lol. why is it we always think of the best come backs after the opportunity has passed us by. I could have used that response also.

Yes, that is the sad part. I loved my wife unconditionally(although I had never considered an affiar) and all that I really asked from her was to be faithful. Many of my emotional needs were not met prior to HER affair but I was willing to sacrifice and hope/pray that they would be met later in life(after kids/after the hustle/climbing the later work years/etc). Now, I am unsure of really what to do. Needs are still not being met and I am not as willing to accept that from a spouse that betrayed me. I know, a new woman may do the same and I hope that my wife has learned a lesson.

Anyway, it is sad that the specialness of intimacy/sexual relationship has been destroyed and is gone forever. During the act, I used to feel special.... now many times during, I think about how she probably gave herself in a similiar way to a complete stranger like it was no big deal - which means it is really nothing special. Or does it mean, she never thought I was all that special? she would do that for anyone. I don't know. I just know that feelings of sex being special and something deep that only we share is not there.

I actually feel more selfish about SF now than before. Now, I find myself not really caring if she is not in the mood or tired or whatever. She told me she really did not want to with the OM(she was drunk, tired, sleepy) but she felt pressured and did it because he had been nice to her for the past couple of hours. Well, I have been "nice" for the last like decade so I feel should get it whenever if we compare being "nice". These post affairs thoughts are crazy. I feel they don't make a lot of sense but then again they do.