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Whatever makes you think your wife is interested in her kids? She only cares about her affair. Sad but true.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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Plan A is about the BS making changes and showing them to the WS who is an active affairee. It is showing that WS that the BS is willing and able to meet EN's if the affair ends. Fair point. I guess I always viewed demonstrating that you can meet a WS's EN's as being a LB deposit. Meaning a WS would not view a BS as having demonstrated they are capable of meeting EN's until some action the BS did actually impacted their LB. But, no need to say more, I realize the distinction. Thanks.
Me 43 BH
MT 43 WW
Married 20 years, No Kids, 2 Difficult Cats
D-day July, 2005
4.5 False Recoveries
Me - recovered
The M - recovered
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FWS,
I have a question about how you would like a BS, to approach you while you are still in your affair? Is the BS an annoyance? Are the BS calls a pain to you? I am just trying to figure out what is going on with my wife. She was very angry after exposure and would tell me that she wouldn't talk to me. Lately she has been very receptive to my calls, she has been pretty talkative, always answers the phone. I want to make sure I don' make myself an annoyance. She has moved out, and is living on her own. I would like to talk to her everyday, but I also don't want to look "needy"
Thanks,
Ryan.
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Good point Ryan,
I feel the same. My WW has also moved out and doesn't speak to me. The only time I get to talk to her is if I phone her at work and she normally says she has to go. I want to talk to my WW all the time but can't. Since her A started she is getting more and more distant.
HAF
Together 10 Years
Married 14 Febuary 04
DD 6 March 2007
DS8 & DS9
BS 38(me)
WS 39
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Truth can stand on it's own two feet....A lie needs support....FRM
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Thank you Sweetsobriquet for this link. Quite informative. My husband and I facilitate a marriage mentor ministry at our church and several mentors have mentorees in crisis and in danger of divorce. This link will be very helpful for them. Thanks
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